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i have bulemia and iv been battling it on and off for quite some time now,, it comes and goes. and i havent got help for it before, but last time i had it really bad my family knew about it.
i cant eat around anyone atm but when im with my dad or sister [[any family member]] i eat so they doesnt notice but then i just throw up. and when im by myslef i can eat.. like i dnt eat anything and then i just binsge eat and throw up,, mainly because i cant stop myself from eating to much.
how do i eat a little bit and stop myself from eating so i dnt over eating and throw up,, like i no if i eat a little bit then it will be easier to keep down but i just keep eating to the point where i make myself sick. im really trying to control this but its so hard.
my friend who knows [one friend] gets disapointed in me when i cant eat around her. but she just doesnt know how hard it is... i know i need help but im so scared of getting help. wat should i do?? (link)
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First, I am so sorry for what you're going through, and respect and admire you for recognizing that you do indeed have a disorder. You're an extremely brave young girl.
An eating disorder is the hardest thing to battle because it's you fighting against yourself. Your brain is telling you the opposite of what is true because it's under pressure. The best way to relieve that pressure is to resort to throwing up. Your brain thinks your doing the best thing for yourself. That's what makes it so hard.
I'm sorry to say this and leave you with no options, but you must get help. If you don't you could end up in the hospital or dieing. Your family seems very supportive, and willing to stick by your side. Your friend seems truly worried, and doesn't want you to end up hurt. Please seek professional attention. This is hard, and I have no place to tell you what's right and what's wrong, but I do know that an eating disorder can consume you and everyone around you that you love. I do know that allot of people with bulimia have issues with self control, and use food to control themselves.
It's hard to battle on your own, and I'm so sorry that you�re going through this. But please, be brave and seek medical attention. It can only help you, into being a healthier person that can help others in this similar situation.
Again I'm sorry, best wishes and hopes, and I know you're a strong enough girl to do the right thing.
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Hello again, and thank you for the rating :)!
It's perfectly normal to feel scared about something like this. I would be too!
The reason for the fear: Think of it this way, the disorder you have is, unfortunately, apart of you. It has to do with something deep inside you. You�re physically acting out what your feeling.
In a way you're allowing professionals to probe inside your own feelings, child hood, and bad memories. Also you are trying to change. Change is scary, especially if it means you'll have to break a bad habit. That's why you're scared.
You also don't want to be judged, and let this label who you are, which it won't! It is all normal to feel scary. So don't worry about being scared.
To combat fear: You have realize, you are not alone! You have to tell yourself,� this is only for now, it's not forever. I can do this, and this will no longer control who I am." Repeat it, and feel it. Because it's the truth. You can do this! You are not alone, you have family and friends backing you up, and the people who are going to help you are going to do their best. Don't be scared you're not alone. :)!
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Rating: 5
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thankyou... im really trying to eat without eating too much and throw up but its hard. my friend is going to take me to a councillor next week to get help. im so scared about getting help cos i cant talk to people about this which makes it soo stressful but i know i need professional help... how can i stop being so scared to get help and why am i so scared to get help??
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