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Q: ok so i have been dating this guy named matthew for about nine months and we have been through alot together....my family recently just fell apart and i got sent to treatment foster care to work on stress and how to relate to a family positively so his mom is going into training to get as licesence for foster care so she can have me in her home i really love his family and i have become so attached to them his neice and nephew call me auntie and everything......anyway i found out last night that he was cheating on me i really love him and it kills me inside to know i cant be there when he wants me to but i dont know what to do if i leave him i have no where to go and his mom would just be wasting her time i dont want to let her down.....i really need help im so lost female/16
Me personally I would talk to his Mom. I would be like "look I found out that he was cheating on me but I really appreciate what you've done for me, and I would still like to live here" but you shouldn't stay with him. I'm not trying to be mean but you don't deserve to be treated that way and you can get mad at me but he can't think it's alright to be such a jerk to you. NO ONE deserves to be lied to or cheated on. I don't think you have to date this guy for his Mom to follow through, and if you do that's stupid and immature of his mother. She should know things happen and SOMETIMES relationships don't last. Also if she's going to be mean about it then she could be even worse about other things too so I would try to get out of it and find a better place. My sister is a social worker. I would talk to someone you feel comfortable with to give them your info so they can find you a better place with a secure situation.... Good luck, I really hope you end up okay...

thank you i think it would be better to talk to his mom first that really made sense

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