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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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i'm not really asking too much for advice, but more of an opinion and what you think. so heres my story (17f&17m):
i dated this guy for 8 months and we broke up the last week of april...he said he doesn't have the same feelings for me. however, we went to prom together and i was laying on this guy cause i wasn't feeling good and he was off doing his own thing...and he got upset at me for that...we both decided that itd be best for us not to talk until summer starts (which is in like a month from now) then he wants to start hanging out again as friends and he said "if its meant to be, it'll be". we started going out during the summer of last year and i was thinking of doing something cute when we hang out to realize why he fell for me last summer. i really love this kid and he treats me right. so what do you think i should do with this whole situation..is there anything that can boost our chances of getting back together?
oh and should i text him first when school ends? and how long should i wait? or should i let him text me?
I have no clue why this guy broke up with you. I may have said that it was because his feelings were different from yours until you told me he got mad at prom. This shows he is jealous of you being with other guys, but why would he be if he just wanted to "stay friends?"
I don't want you to get offended, but you asked my opinion so I am going to give it.
I think this guy does not like the idea of being tied down. You dated for a long time, and that kind of committment can be scary for some guys. My boyfriend and I went through this stage at about the same time you two are now. He probabably got jealous at the dance because he does have feelings for you still, but he doesn't want to.
He wants you to text him over the summer so you guys can hang out as "just friends." He still wants to see you, only without all the extra baggage of being in relationship. If you are prepared to deal with that, then that's great. It's probably best just to let him take time away from you though. If you all continue hanging out while not dating, what incentive does he have to to go back into something that pushed him away so much?
Go about the rest of your school year, and try to forget about all of this. Have fun with your friends and take advantage of being single. If he decides to text you once summer starts, you can decide whether that's what you want or not. Who knows? You may not want to go back into the relationship. If you do, be sure to let him know this. Tell him you still have feelings for him, so hanging out just to be hanging out won't work and if he wants to be with you, he'll have to deal with being in a committed relationship. It's the only healthy way, please trust me on that. I would know.
Good Luck =]
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