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I'm a mom of 3 kids in a long term relationship. I like to think I'm fairly smart(IQ 131), but I definitely don't know everything. I work a regular job, finished high school, but dropped out of my first year of college. I'm not religious, but I think of myself as pretty spiritual. I'm always watching and reading new things that interest me, because I love to learn new things. I guess you can really ask me anything, I love to give advice. I'm sure the people that will benefit best from my advice are other people like me, but don't take my word on it ;)

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I will start by saying that I am self diagnosed. as a child as young as 5 i remember staying up crying in bed because i thought I was dying and in the 80s when AIDs was becoming more known I was positive I had it (I was only 8).I am in my twenties now and I still go through periods of extreme paranoia and obsession with some life-threatening problem I believe I have. it most often starts out with something that actually is physically wrong but it escalates in my head a lot. (i.e cyst on my chest becomes cancer, chronic sore throat is throat cancer, heart palpitations is heart attack.) sometimes i get so paranoid that i convince myself i am going to die that night or by the time my son is five or whatever. Its ridiculous. the only things that can ease my mind is telling my boyfriend or bestfriend about whatever problems i have and then having them tell me they have had it or know that it is going to be okay. thing is, they are at the point they do not want to hear it anymore, and i don't blame them because oh man I am crazy. i love my life, i do not want to die, and i try every day to convince my brain that i am in good health and will live a long time. i need some advice on how to overcome this myself, because I cannot see a doctor for financial reasons (although i would love someone to talk to) and i am absoulutely against medication for any kind of mental disorder. (just for myself, i do not judge others), thanks

A good way to start, is knowing that death is not bad, it is not the end. When people that are really sick die, it is a relief for them because they are usually in pain. Death is not the end of life, it's the start of another on the other side. Many illnesses like cancer and aids, dont mean death anymore. There are many resources now and government aid you can get, especially if you have a child. Support groups are many times free, you just need to find them. I suggest working on a stress free life. Get some yoga and meditation videos. When you feel panic coming on, take some deep breaths in and out, while you count in your head to 60. Distracting your mind when you feel a panic attack coming on will help stop it. I can't think of anything else at this moment that could help you. I just urge you to get government aid since you have a child. You could get insurance coverage, and other help like free daycare and food assistance.

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much
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