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I'm a mom of 3 kids in a long term relationship. I like to think I'm fairly smart(IQ 131), but I definitely don't know everything. I work a regular job, finished high school, but dropped out of my first year of college. I'm not religious, but I think of myself as pretty spiritual. I'm always watching and reading new things that interest me, because I love to learn new things. I guess you can really ask me anything, I love to give advice. I'm sure the people that will benefit best from my advice are other people like me, but don't take my word on it ;)

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14/f

So about 3 and a half weeks ago, there was this new girl to my class... lets call her L. I thought she was kind of nice at first, cause, you know, she was like a new opportunity as a friend. It turned out one of my best friends (E) has been friends with her for awhile, so L sits at our lunch table now... but after the first day, I started to have my doubts about her, and same thing with the rest of the table (except for E). Here are some things about her that we don't like at all:

-She has so much acne her face is completely red

-She constantly talks about how she talks to ghosts... also how there used to be a mean ghost in her old house, and thats why the moved...

-She smells A LOT like smoke...

-Her hair is greasy and disgusting.. lots of dandruff

-She makes no effort to talk to anyone but E, even though she's hung out with us for about a month

-Also after a month, she still doesn't know my name. Or anyone else's for that matter.

-She's kind of a brat-she gets really upset if she doesn't get what she wants

-I think she's emo or something... I often see her in some class I'm in with her with her head down and her hair over her face, or just her hands over her eyes... it's kind of creepy.

-She is extremly clingy

-She's a total bitch to some of my friends

-No one likes her (except for the freak-girl clique...) and she's completely oblivious to it

-Every single day she has worn the same shoes-these obnoxious, calf-high, brown wedges that make an awful clacking noise when she walks

-SHE WON'T LEAVE US ALONE!!

And I could keep going but I think I'll stop now. And please, don't tell me to 'give her a chance because she's the new girl'. A-she's not exactally new anymore, and B- I think I listed at least 10 reasons why she's a creep. I really don't feel bad for her anymore.

So, I really need help on how to tell E that we really don't like L... without hurting anyone's feelings...? I don't know, I just really need some advice on what to do.

It sounds to me you are completely judgemental. Vanity isn't everything, I think you need a reality check. She is a person with feelings, just like you and everyone else on this planet. She deserves friends as much as the next person. So what if she is a little different? It's better to be different then like every other girl in the school, at least she is trying to be a individual. If your one friend likes her, she is probably a great person. You guys just can't see past the outside to see the inside. And what is wrong with talking about ghosts? Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs. It sounds to me you have just been living a sheltered life, there is a lot more out there in the world then you will ever know with that attitude. It's time to start growing up and except that everyone isn't like you, stop being so vain.

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(Rating: 1) Listen up, did I ACTUALLY say that "she isn't a human being, she has no emotions or soul, and she doesn't deserve to have friends". How about you just twist every damn thing I said. I think YOU'RE the one who's being judgmental.
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