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15f.
i know you guys are probably sick of all the damn questions about friends and friendship issues, but i have a simple question: do i have a right to be upset considering the following:
i used to be really good friends with this girl, but then she got a boyfriend and EVERYTHING changed.
the first time she hurt me was when she told me she went to third base with her boyfriend FOURTH months after. and i know you're like, "um well that's her personal business with her boyfriend. no reason to be jealous, girl." BUT she told two other friends who aren't as close with her as i am BEFORE ME. she has never done that to me before. she used to tell me everything. i thought i would have been the first to know...
the second time she hurt me was today. when her boyfriend told me that one of our really good friends got practically raped. SIX MONTHS AGO. she does not know that i know, but those same two girls even knew before i did. this really got me upset.
do i or do i not have a right to be upset with her? (link)
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i think that maybe you are a bit too sensitive. i understand where you are coming from and all. but, i'll explain. if she knows you better than these other 2 girls, maybe she worries about your opinion of her more. maybe she is scared for you to know that she did this or that with guys. she wouldn't want you to think less of her. she probably just had to tell somebody and picked these 2 girls cuz she really doesn't care what they think. personally, i used to smoke but couldn't bring myself to smoke around my best friend because i was ashamed. possibly, she was too scared for you to know. with the almost rape, um i don't know if anyone but the guy that was attacked should even be discussing that. that' very private info. but if you were told by your friend's bf it is possible that your friend doesn't know about it. i understand you want to be close to yoru friend and feel like she trusts others more or is favoring others more recently. but sometimes friends only discuss certain things with each friend that they have. nobody ever gets 100 percent of what is going on. but you probably get more than almost anyone else. i understand that you were hurt. i'd probably be hurt too. but i don't think this is any sign of losing a friend or not being trusted or anything to be worried about.
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yeah but it's not like she's telling certain people certain things. she's tell those two girls other things and not me. in addition, her BOYFRIEND is the one who knows most about her. it used to be me. but things changed. thanks for your input.
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