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Q: I'm a quiet girl, don't associate myself with others much because i don't want to be negatively assosiated with people in any way by accident.

Well I was walking the walkway and this guy that's the same grade as me but SHORTER called me a douchebag and one of his friends were like "that's mean!" but then someone from their group was like "YOU'RE A DOUCHEBAG!" and then another person from their group said "Come on (name), get over here and beat the crap out of them! Don't let them stomp over you like this!"

But like how adults always say to not fight back, I just continued walking down the hallway. I'm just going to leave this to God and hope that Karma will come into play. I went into the bathroom, and just sat there, starring.

Why would they randomly decide to call me a douchebag like this? I never did any harm to anybody. I have them in a couple of my classes and we rarely talk but we talked a few times and they were NEVER like that before.

I'm just so hurt, my self esteem is so low, and it took my whole strength to keep my self from bursting out in tears during the whole day at school. What do i do now?

And how can I let out this anger and stress in a healthy way other than listening to music? (because that isn't really letting it out).

I think that shouting real loud as loud as i can like in the movie works but I'm never at home alone and I don't drive o it's not like I can drive myself to the park and scream...

Thank you so much in advance
You didn't do anything wrong! It's sad but true that kids just get bored or want to look cool so they try to do this by bothering others. There will be many times in your life when people will do things that make no sense, hurt you and confuse you at the same time. This is one of them. Their rude behavior probably had nothing to do with you, but more to do with their immaturity. Weak people that want to make themselves feel better always pick on people that they know won't fight back. If you are quiet and to yourself, it was probably taken as a weakness. You were an easy target for them. They are immature so forget them and Continue to be you. Karma is real and they will have to deal with the choices they make. You do need to stand up for yourself, but yelling at them or trying to get back at them is a waste of energy. A good release is writing, anything artistic will take your focus away from what's bothering you. Whenever I feel down about something I'm dealing with, I reach out to help others with advice and talking. Always keep your outlet positive. Reading books, exercising, writing or watching movies are great places to start. New hobbies are always fun also.

thank you so much!

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