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Q: I'm probably looking into this too much (as usual, lol), but here's the deal:

I sent a guy I know a message on facebook- he just joined the site a couple weeks ago. I haven't talked to him in several months, mainly to ask about applying to schools, etc. I sent him a random message asking him how he is, and if he had any feedback/advice on the application process, etc. I ended asking if it would be possible for him to look over a paper for me, whenever he could.

The thing is, it was sort of a long message, and as I mentioned, I haven't talked to him in a while (HE, being a friend of a friend who I thought could help out). So, he hasn't replied yet, but I'm getting the feeling that he either doesn't want to, or is a little put off by a random, "out of the blue" message/request...or maybe he's just like most guys who don't like long messages.

So is there any reason why you think he wouldn't want to respond, or was there anything wrong with my "facebook/email etiquette?" Or am I worked up over nothing? BTW, if it helps, I'm pretty sure he knows I used to like him in that way...so I hope this isn't another "guy thing."

Its possible that he didn't have time to read the whole message, or just got busy and forgot to respond. I would just write on his wall and be casual like "hey (his name)how are you? I'm good, I sent you a msg about (xyz)....did u get it? Its not a big deal if you do that. You can actually see that if its on his wall and he will be reminded of it everytime he looks at his wall so there is no forgetting as an excuse. However, if he doesn't respond this time, I would think that he is being flaky and just leave him alone. At that point he's being rude, and you don't deserve it because you have done nothing wrong. I use facebook, so I think that this will be a good way to go without the mystery of messages and wondering if he read it or forgot. Just like you, I don't like it when people don't respond to messages or posts and I am super analytical as you say you are.

Thanks, I'll keep it in mind...he actually replied today, so as usual, I was looking into it too much

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