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ok i have a big problem and need help *sigh*

i am going out with a guy who used to like my sister. but she did not like him at all he went chasing for her for a long time it was annoying. i didnt like him at that time or even noticed the attraction for him. he asked her out and i helped him ask my sister out, and she said NO. so he was heart broken. then a couple months later he gives up and another guy goes for my sister and he wants her. then he texted me and said he liked me and brought up if he would want to go out with me. and i said no because i only liked him as a friend and that it wouldnt work out for us. a couple days later i had these really strong feelings for him and started to really like him a lot and told my sister that i wanted to go out with him. and she didnt care at all because she thought he was the most annoying thing in the world. i loved him for his personality. so i told her to tell him i liked him. and she told him and he said he had to think about it but he was really happy that i liked him. on friday he asked me out and i said yes. it was awkward at first because we were not really close friends as my sister was to him. we have been going out now for 4 months now. i love him with all my heart and we talk about getting married and all. but theres just one problem i have this gut feeling he likes my sister still because he will talk to her a lot, (mostly about me) but for some reason when ever he talks about her it seems like he still likes her or something. i am not sure should i ask him if he still does or just ignore it that he loves me and not her? how do i know?

It's possible that he still has strong feelings for your sister and is with you just to be close to her. One thing you can do to see if that's the case is ask your sister to start cutting her conversations and interactions with him way back and see how he reacts. If he becomes upset by it to the point where your conversations with him are all about why your sister isn't talking to him as much, then his focus isn't on you but her and you shouldn't continue with the relationship. However, if he directs most of his attention and conversation back to you and seems relatively unaffected by your sister's lack of attention to him then you know he's with you because he really cares for you. Good luck. Let me know how it goes.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much i will try your advice your very good at giving advice =]
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