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Q: so I dumped my boyfriend a few days ago because he used to be flirting with my so called best friend and called her beautiful infront of my face, and all this shit. We were once talking about how dumb it was to brake up with people and then not talk to them. So we were like, if anything every happens we are still gonna be friends. And so after I dumped him, I said hi to him the next day. I was so happy and relieved to have him out of my life. It was one of the happiest moments of my life. and then he didn't say anything bak. he just kinda waved but ignored me. And he has been going to all my friends and everyone telling them i broke up with him. and he told my friend that i was gonna regret it. I don't know wht to think about this situation. what do you guys think? I'm thinking maybe he is over me already, and he wants to show it. Or he isn't, he's trying to hide it, but its not working because he's been looking really down lately. And maybe he is telling all the girls so that he can have someone to replace me quick or something. Or maybe, i'm not quiet sure what to think. what do you guys think?
I think that he didn't really speak because he is just still upset about the breakup. He isn't over you completely or he would be "easy like Sunday morning" as they say. He may try to pretend so that he doesn't look pathetic and he may even pretend to be really into another girl at first. He will need time to get passed the hurt and move on. All you can do is enjoy your new found freedom since it is what you wanted. Remain friendly if you still want a friendship with him and do your best to stay clear of any drama or negativity concerning him. It is important now that you don't fall back into your old patterns with him and that you don't send him mixed signals. Be fair to yourself by not worrying about him too much, it defeats the purpose of ending the relationship. You want to be civil but stand your ground, backsliding will only hurt you both more. Stick with your decision and move on with your life. In order to do that completely, he HAS to play a significantly smaller role in your life. Good luck!

you are right....yep, i'm sure sticking with that decision. i just always felt so unhappy with him and down and i couldn't be myself, but now i can because he is not there.lol..bt anyway...your advice has helped me a lot. thank you!!!

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