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Q: we cheat? why do people cheat? is their any way to jusify cheating? i just want the people on advicenator and their imput on cheating. not just cheating is wrong and thats that. :) think more about it. thank you.
I think that cheating occurs for a number of reasons. Some people feel that there is a void in their relationship and instead of working it out with their mate, they cheat with someone else. Another reason people cheat is a lack of self control. Some people just cannot resist the temptation. Some do it for the thrill of tasting forbidden fruit so to speak. They think that their partner will never find out so, that don't think of the other person in the relationship. Another reason people cheat is because they are in a relationship with someone they do not trust. In a relationship like that, they tend to feel that they don't really have much to lose so they should have their fun. If a person has been cheated on and decided to stay with their cheating partner, they might cheat as well because of hurt feelings and or lack of trust that the other has really stopped cheating on them.I also think that people cheat when they have strong feelings for more than one person but they don't want to leave either of them. They feel torn, and before resolving the issue...they might cheat since they like both people in different ways. I think for people that are younger, they think that they look "cooler" if they are seen as a player, so those types will cheat not because they necessarily want to but for status. Lastly, some people end up in relationships that are not ready and willing to be committed to one person. Instead of being completely honest and mature about it, they may just hold on to the relationship hoping to never get caught. Once exposed for who they really are the other person in the realtionship will feel confused, hurt and betrayed.

that was perfect :) thank you you know what you are talking about :)

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