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Q: 16/f
Long story... Please read if your going to help me!

so there was this guy marcus who i liked and when i talked to him he invited me to hang out with him and his friends
so i went that weekend to the mall with them and had a blast! they were really cool
so marcus and i started talkin on the phone and eventually after like 2 weeks he asked me out and i said yes
so i was really happy and we hung out again
then he started going just a little too fast for me so i said we should be just friends
and its like, i still like him a little but its better this way
but then all of his friends said they dont want to hang out with me anymore now
so im a little sad but oh well
i start seeing him again at school and now hes really standoffish. i mean he still acts okay but hes really cold
but hes like a really cool guy
and i really still wanted to be friends with him but hes acting so uninterested in being my friend and everything
is there anything i should do or could do to have him warm up to me again as a friend? and how should i approach his friends too
thanks please help :[
I hate to say it, but most guys are immature at that age. You did the right thing by slowing him down and if he can't respect that, it's his loss. You are trying to be his friend and if he seems cold or standofish, forget him...it's his loss. You don't need a guy like that anyway because he would have only tried to use you to get what he wanted. It's ok to be nice to him but don't ever compromise your moral standard for a guy.... doing so will only leave you in regret. Also, if his friends don't wanna hang out with you now, they were never your real friends to begin with. Don't waste your time or energy on any of them. There will be someone who will adore you and treat you with the respect you deserve. In my opinion, you have done all you can so just leave it alone. He doesn't want something meaningful, he wants something fast.

Thanks so much :) To tell you the truth, the actual story didn't go like that but I changed it for Advicenators. And it wasn't that he wanted sex, he just wanted more then I wanted to give. He was really cool but it's really his loss, right :)

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