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Hi, I am Alison. Well I live in New York. I love helping people out and giving advice out to people. Fashion is my thing, so if you need any advice on that don't be afraid to ask = ]. I love getting messages for advice so feel free to ask me anything. I'm up to great oppurtunities in life. Ummm there isn't that much more to know about me!
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so i have this friend. we have been friends since like 6th grade, were in 11th. anyway..she honestly treats me like shit. i dont know why i am still friends with her. well no.. i take that back. i do know why. because if i ignore and just dont want to deal with her anymore she will seriously make my life a living hell. she has done it before. she acts like im not even a human. ive been the one that has been there for her since i dont even know. she is crying, im there triyng to help her. but when I am crying or something is wrong with ME, god forbid she takes 5 seconds out of her life to help someone with a problem and that its not all about HER all the damn time. i dont know what to do. im sick of it. when i get mad, i just ignore her. im not the confrontational type, i dont like bitching at people. i usually keep the peace. but she on the otherhand will rip you apart and make you hate yourself. its happened. today in lunch i was telling her something, because i mean her being one of my best friends..itd b nice if i was allowed to talk to her rtight? apparently wrong. i tell her something, she goes "ok, i dont care" and gave me attitude. so i just got up and went with my friend and i started crying so hard. then these other two gierls that i used to be reallly good friends with, not so much anymore, came up and talked to me., they care more than my so called best friend. she knows im mad but she will turn it around on me and be a bitch. i dont know what to do anymore. please help me!
I've deffinetly been in your position many times with many useless people that I do not talk to anymore. If your only staying in this friendship because she will make your life a living hell, thats not a very good answer.
As you played out, this girls seems some what manipulative and controlling. You shouldn't have to take her crap anymore. No matter what you guys have been through, think fully and think is this really worth it? Feeling worhless just to be friends with her.
If you truely do not want to be friends with her, confronting her may start even more drama. Start to slowly drift apart from her. This way if she really wants you, she'll come to you. Don't "ignore" her or anything because she'll just think your trying to start drama to get attention. Slowly try to talk to new people and find some new peole. You only have 2 years left, and then your off to college (:
Everything will work out, all of the people in your high school now will be gone in a few years and u probably won't even talk to this girl anymore after high school. I hope everything works out!
(Rating: 5) thank you very much (: