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16/f Alright, sorry this might be a little long. I've been dating this wonderful boy since a month ago yesterday. He's so sweet to me. The bad thing is that he lives nearly four hours away. =/ About a little more than a week into the relationship, he was rushed to the hospital for an inflammed pancreas. One side of his pancreas just stopped working, so he was in there for two weeks. He got out Saturday night I think and ever since he's barely spoken to me at all. I know it's only been a few days. He IMed me the next night and told me how much he missed me and that he promised me he'd make up for lost time. Ever since that, he texted me once. Earlier today, when I signed on AIM, he was on, so I waited for a few minutes to see if he IMed me, and he didn't. I IMed him a half an hour later. he never responded, but went away nearly twenty minutes after I IMed him. I texted him last night because I told him I would call him, but I wouldn't be home until late. I called him and left him a voicemail. He didn't call me back or text me. I know it hasn't been long since he's gotten out of the hospital, but before he went in, he would text me a million times a day, and now he's only texted me once since he's gotten home. I know that he's still recovering, taking it easy on the couch, but if he says he misses me, and then pretty much ignores everything I say to him, I think he's losing interest. I sent him an IM earlier that told him I'm sick of making all these attempts to just be ignored, and that if he wants to talk to me, then he will. I know it's been only a few days, but am I making a big deal out of this? Does it seem like he's losing interest in me?Should I really be upset? What should I do?

sweetie, he's not losing interest in you.

he probably has 230948320932 other things to do, and it would make him feel horrible if you broke up with him out of nowhere. be supportive during the recovery process. see where the relationship lies in a few weeks. he told you he misses you, and he means it. unlike other boyfriends, he seems pretty reliable.

in a couple weeks, explain to him that you were feeling ignored and he will make it up to you just like he promised.

if in two weeks he's STILL ignoring you like this, then break up.

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(Rating: 5) =] Thank you so much! He texted me yesterday and told me that he has to rest all the time and he said that he was sorry if it seemed like he was ignoring me. I realize how ridiculous I sounded. I jsut felt terrible because there was nothing I could do for him to help him feel better. But thanks again. =]
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