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Hi, I'm from the UK, hope you can help! I began dating a guy a few months ago through facebook (However, he is from my hometown and I did already know him). He is 26 and im 25 and he lives about 2.5 hours away from me. We got on so well in every way, we are perfect for each other, but the distance was a stuggle. We were emailing and texting every day, but only getting to see each other every 2 weeks which was really hard. He wanted to move back but couldnt find a job in his profession. Then about 6 weeks ago he rang up and said we should not see each other anymore as its too hard as he is skint, falling behind in his job (he has a professional job) and hates the idea of me paying to go up there all the time. He insisted he still really liked me, but i was sceptical. That was around 6 weeks ago and i was gutted, since then we have emailed around once a week, until last week when he text me saying he would be home on the weekend...would i like to meet for a drink? So i met him on Sat and we were together all night, and things were exactly the same - we still got on so well and he said things like if he lived here he would be saying 'l love you' by now! It was so nice, then Sunday he said he would try and come down in two weeks time...i just dont know waht to do though, im worried he'll change his mind again etc. He's text me a couple of times since the weekend, but nothing yesterday(its wednesday now), but it's so confusing. He is a nice, genuine person so i know he isnt using me. My friend said perhaps i should move up there, but i dont feel that i know him well enough and would be scared. Long distance is really hard, but i really, really like, even love him. It's taken so long to find someone I like, usually I just date and end up finishing with them pretty soon after. I hate feeling like this, it's so much easier when I don't like anyone and am single! Sorry for babbling on so much, but i would appreciate your advice - thank you!x

aw sweetheart. that's really tough. but it's great that you're still in touch. it seems as though he's really into you, and he cares so much about you that he doesn't want you to waste money meeting up with him.

honestly, i wouldn't move unless you're absolutely positive that you want to. it's a big step and, financially, you might have some problems. you'll be ten times more upset if things don't work out AND you spent money on moving.

don't worry too much about what he said, but i think you should both try to meet up in a place halfway from each of you. like at a pizza place or get some coffee so that you don't always have to spend money and neither does he.

all the best, and hope everything works out

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, that's really sound advice, especially about moving x
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