Unfortunately sweetie every person is different. My best friend and I both were in relationships like that (Not at the same time though) where guys just used us and were EXACTLY what your saying this guy is like. The problem was that we both saw how bad the other guy was but couldn't see what was right in front of our face.

When she was going through it I tired telling her and she wouldn't believe me, she told me I was jealous, and we stopped being friends. Even after the guy got in her pants and left her. To this day we don't really say more then hello to each other if we happen to cross paths...

And people tried to warn me too and I didn't want to hear a word of it. I thought he was perfect...

The best advice I can give you is to just be there to catch her when she falls. Give her, her space if she needs it, but if you've already tried to talk to her about it or if she is the type of person that wouldn't listen because she's in too deep then just be there when she needs it...

I know as a best friend it's pure torture to sit back and watch someone abuse them the way this guy is, but from my own experience I really don't think there is anything you can do or say to her to make you believe he's so bad.

Sadly your friend has to make her own choices (which I'm sure you already know, I'm not trying to sound like a mom or be rude hahaha =]) and if she does end-up sleeping with him, or even getting hurt without him getting in her pants it's all up to her, and you can't be there to live her life for her and open her eyes to what a jerk this dude is. It stinks and I understand, but honestly hang in there and just be there for her when she's going to need you the most is my own opinion.

... AND, if you haven't talked to her yet and you want to, I would just suggest to not say anything that would make her get defensive. Try to let her know that you want nothing more than for her to be happy, but you are concerned that this guy is real bad news and may hurt her. Definitely try not to say anything that could/would make her think your jealous since that is not the case. Make sure your alone too when you talk to her because I've found that just dumping that on people, or saying it when others are around makes them more defensive and offended and you certainly don't want her to feel like your coming down on her. =)

Good luck with everything. I hope I could help a little. And good luck to your friend too (guys like that annoy me) I hope she doesn't get hurt. =)

thankyou, great advice!

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