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I'm a 19 yr old mainly agnostic ex philosophy student with rather strong views about a lot of things. I'm very liberal, love the diversity I live in in London and hate that America hasn't separated church from state.
I'm engaged to the love of my life, but agree it is a little bizarre to get engaged at 18.
I'm confident, quite literally crazy, caring and crippled. My manual wheelchair is called Sebastian and he gets scared when he goes too fast, my electric is called Jermaine (after the Flight of the Conchords character) and he really does not like ice.
I can read Braille and I know basic sign language because I believe everyone should be given equal chances. I dislike it that money doesn't have Braille on it.
I'll do my best to help out with your situations, I've been in and seen many a family conflict, I've had my fair share or love life crises, I've had about every illness known to man (could tell you a lot of amusing stories about psychiatric wards) and I'm "The Queen of Hair Dye" so hopefully I'll have some idea about advice. If it looks like I don't give lots of advice, it's because I only advise on things I know about. I also detest poor spelling and grammar so although having dyslexia makes me a bit hypocritical about this.

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okay well about this time last year, my adopted cousin tried to pretty much rape me. TRIED! he didnt get very far, because i punched him and threw up. And i dont know how to get over that. Im jaded from it still. How would i react?? If i see him you know. Because they come over and i dont want it to be awkward or anything. I dont know i keep feeling as though i am making this bigger than what it sounds.
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I don't think you're making a big deal out of it, it is a big deal that he's tried it on with you.
I hope you said at the time something along the lines of "what the fuck do you think you're doing".

If it really still gets to you, tell your parents, however be aware that, while they will almost certainly support you, there will be a rift created within the family.

It may be that your cousin thought it was reciprocal, but it may not cos I dont know what happened.

I do understand what you are going through, my brother abused me, and when I told my family I wish I hadn't because I felt they resented me for making them think badly of their son. My parents have now forgotten about it, and I like it that way. I now get on great with my brother, and have forgiven him.

My advice is, tell people if you need to. It may help to tell someone outside the family first. I wouldn't confront your cousin, I would let the whole thing be, unless of course he tries it again, in which case you should definatly tell people and give him a good old slap or knee where it hurts. Theres no way he should be doing that.

If you need anything else, let me know xx

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(Rating: 5) okay thank you so much
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