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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Hi there! Im female, fifteen.
I come from a pretty strong Christian family but were still really laid back and dont go to church too often, except for my older sister;; she like owns a church. But her husband is a hardcore evangelist. I dont know what it means to me an evangelist, though.
But my family is reallly blessed and weve had a lot of health problems in the family and quite a few miracles.
Im not sure when, but my parents received a prophecy "Both of your girls will grow up to be missionaries, and so strong will their spirits be that all will forget the mother" or something like that.
But I cant help but have my doubts about that. Thats definitely had favor on my sisters part, but I get nervous when she asks me to pray. And I dont know how to pray in tongues. I dont even know why people do it, like my family. I just dont know HOW.
But my main problem is that being a teenaged girl I feel guilty when I want to pleasure myself. I do, but I always feel so bad afterwards that I cant stand to be in the same room as my mother.
Annd, I dont know what to dooo please help :'[[
You're fifteen years old. If you didn't have some form of sexual feelings I would either:
A) Think you had something wrong with you, or
B) Think you were lying.
It's normal for teenager to think about sex, and it's normal for teenagers to pleasure themselves. I'm not sure if you and your family think that it's a terrible thing or whatever. But it is healthy. And I think if you feel like doing it, then by all means do it. I mean honestly, you aren't the only Christian girl touching themselves, I can almost guarentee it.
The majority of my family are Christians. But my mediate family doesn't go to church. I've been before with friends, and my grandparents a few times. But as far as going religiously? I don't go. I'm sure I commit all sorts of sins everyday. But, I do belive in God more than I believe in anything else. (I sometimes do question it) I think I am a good person, and I don't think any good God would send good people to hell just because they gave into temptation or didn't go to church every Sunday. So why not masturbate? It's healthy and you aren't hurting anyone! You are only human.
I don't want to speak ill of how you and your family pray, but the whole speaking in tongue thing I never really understood. If your parents are understanding, I would consider talking to them about how you are nervous about the prophecy or whatever it was that had you worried. I'm sure they will be able to say something to you to make you feel better about it.
But as far as being sexual with another person? I wouldn't go jumping into that. It's something you do with someone you love. Not something you do because you are horny. If you feel the urge to have sex with someone, pleasure yourself. Like I said, you won't be shot down for it. It's normal. When you find a special guy you want to spend the rest of your life with and you truely love, you can be sexual with them and go as far as you want with them. But until then, wait.
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