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Q: Brown...

I was wondering if you could give me some love advice? Its more of friendship advice. Anyway, heres the story...

Theres this boy. Wev been going out on and off for the past two years. He keeps breaking me heart, because i keep breaking up with him. It dosent make since because i always end it. But i dont end things because i dont like him, i do it because its not the right time. Wer starting high school next year and i dont wana live with heartache then. But he keeps winning me back.

So this time we had a thing for the past maybe three months. We havent stopped talking for a minuite that whole time. Then i ended it, he argued with me but i stood my ground. And ive been slowly getting over it and it hurts but its going good.

And i was kind of mentally prepared for him liking someone new, but not like THE DAY AFTER!

And now last night he told me he has to tell me somthing but it would be better in person (he was suposed 2 come over today with a bunch of friends) and he wouldnt tell me! He was driving me nuts. But then i heard from a friend of mine (that also likes him... thats another story) that a mutual friend of ours kissed him! Yesterday. I was like, in the same building. At my best friends house.

Its just so wierd because hes the one who said he wouldnt be conftorble doing things with another girl yet and he frustrates me so much because as much as i want him out of my life he still has this power to bother me but it hurts that hes over it so fast even though im not and he still wants to be best friends but i never want to talk to him again! I never should have gone out with him in the firstplace but its too late for that now but now i just want to hurt him! Like id love to just hit him. Im not going to do that even though it would make me feel better but i think it would only help for a little while.

Anyway, heres my question. How do you get over someone for good? So they can never come back into your life and hurt you again? So that you dont care at all anymore what they do, and you have the power to like other people? I know theres no fast or easy answer but any advice would be amazing! Thanks so much!

14/F btw..

i think it is ironic that you asked be this question, because my boyfriend and i have been dating for two years and we are currently on a ''break''.. but thats enough about me.

it obviously upset you to hear that he kissed another girl because you are attached to him. he was probably your first kiss, since you've been with him since you were about 12 i think. so dont feel like you shouldnt be or you dont have the right to be upset, because you can be. you cant be mad at him though, even though he told you he wasnt ready to do that, he still has the right to do whatever he wants since you are not together.

i guess i dont understand what you mean by not the right time.. from everything you said i think that you are thinking you want a permanent end to you both. i realize you still want to be friends, which is fine, but that has to come later.

for right now, you need to be okay on your own, and not go runnign back to him everytime you miss him or everytime he says he misses you. when you realize that you are okay, and that you can be happy on your own, then you can be friends and see him without getting too upset.

when you hear that he hung out with another girl, or anything like that, your first instinct will always be to get upset or maybe even jealous(although you wont admit it:) ).. but you need to think it through or talk about it with friends and realize that you are done, and that there is no you and him any longer.

try not to dwell on how things used to be or about being happy with him, right now you need to find things to be happy about without him , and that will help you get over him. hang out with your girl friends, have a sleep over, go to the movies with boys, or the beach... etc.

just have fun, be sad when you need to, and talk it over with your friends

most importantly do not let anyone convince you that you need someone or that you feel something that you don't feel. listen to your heart and you will know what to do.. even if its not easy.

sorry this was long, if you need anything else just ask.

Rating: 5

Aw thank you so much! That helped a lot. A really much lot. Thanks!

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