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okay.. so there is this guy that i have known my whole life.. and my whole life i have had a crush on him. from puppy love in preschool to crushing hard in middle school, ive always liked him.. his parents and my parents grew up together and we have grown up together, but we hardly see eachother because he goes to a diff. school.. i have not stopped thinking about him for over 2 and 1/2 years now.. its just that i couldnt imagine living my life without him. hes amazing! theres a few other things though.. first of all- not only does he go to another school.. im gonna be a soph and hell be a freshmen. my birthday is in may and his is in sept or oct. so its not like hes waay younger.. and all of my friends say that its weird.. except my besties.. but they say "wow. i think you love him." idk! the other thing is- he has a g/f.. i know i know.. that seems really bad.. but the thing is he is e one who always txts me first.. well most of the time. but whenever i try to txt him hell never txt back! and its not like im flirting.. i just want to talk and get to know him. you know- start out as friends.. i have no idea what to do.. im not sure how i feel about him and i really do want to talk to him. one of my bffs that ive known forever and also knows him to says i should just tell him how i feel.. but i really dont want to make it awkward between us or anything.. could you please help me?? if there are anymore questions that i could answer to help you figure out my problem.. i def. open! thanks soo much!

Hello,

Are you OK? If you need a live person to talk to, I will be more than happy to have a life coach call you, free of charge.

He has a girlfriend, The moral thing to do would be to leave him alone until she is out of the picture.

You are right, telling him would make things awkward since he has a girlfriend already. On the other hand, guys are ego maniacs and instead of dating you, he is settling for someone else because he is too 'shy' to tell you how he feels.

Say nice things to him and do nice things for him. If you really want to win his heart, read a book called 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.' Google it.

I know, you are not planning to marry him, but you more than likely will marry someday. That book is the key to keeping a man happy. They need their ego stroked, it will tell you how!

Please, focus on school and improving yourself. Save yourself for him if you must, but do not let it stop you from living.

Above all, be honest with yourself and everyone around you. Yes, you can be in love with someone and not tell them. It is not lying when telling them will break up an existing relationship for personal gain. You can however, slip once and say 'I love you' and then never say it again unless you are in his arms on your wedding night. If he notices that you said it and he asks you about it,
Answer with "I did?" or "Did I?" Then ask "Why? Do you love me?"

The not texting back when you text first issue, is easy to solve. Stop texting him first. Only text when he does it first. Make him initiate contact, you respond, that is it.

Now just brcause you cannot kiss him, does not mean that you cannot kiss up to him. When you do text him, after he's initiated contact, be the woman that worships the ground he walks on. He will come around, or he won't. The important thing is that you get to know him to see if you really are in love with him.

Good Luck! Remember we can call if you'd like to talk.

-- Stay Hones

This was rated a 4. Not sure why? I did assume that you are still a teenager. You stated it in your question. This is good advice and may have been ranked unfairly. The bottom line is that you are going to make yourself sick thinking about his boy that you call a guy. A guy is someone who has reached early adulthood. It is not healthy for you to continue to 'think you love him'. U

Unfortunately, you are not as mature as most 16 year old I have known. Otherwise you would see how valuable this advice is, and follow it.

Never the less, if you need someone to talk to we are here.

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(Rating: 4) thanks so much for handling my answer in a mature way.. but im just a teenager. you really did help though.
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