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Q: 19/f

So a lot of people that know me think that I'm a player or a tease, but they really don't know what I'm going through. My problem is, is that whenever things are going good with the guy I'm dating, I seem to always find something wrong with them that really annoys me and eventually I stop talking to them. Then I just move on to a different guy and the same thing happens. . I don't know what's wrong with me?!?

I did get out of a relationship, but that was like 7 months ago. My ex has already moved on and starting dating other girls. Things didn't end very well with him and me, we fought a lot and the situation was just bad. Long story short I still had feelings for him but he couldn't stand the fighting.

I just wanna know, could that be the reason I tend to push guys away when things are getting good???? Do I need to wait longer before I date again?!? What should I do!? Am I just a Tease?
Thanks in advance :)

Usually waiting for feelings to completely dissipate is what you should do. Its rarely a good idea to go out with another guy when you still have feelings for an ex because then their simply a rebound. The problem with some rebounds is when you start to have feelings for them and get confused and whether its good anymore. Being broken up with can dent trust and make you afraid of committed relationships. That might be why you question guys when things start getting good. But the thing is with a rebound to get over that rebound you might get another and so on. And then you seem just like a tease. You need to take a break. Just try to keep your mind on something else that DOESN'T involve relationships. Wait until there really is a guy that seems one of a kind. There seriously is no rush just try to keep it cool for awhile.