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ok the thing is im very hurt and confused cause mii very best friend, lets call her C, is sayin sumthin dat i think is wrong but i dont understand what she means. if you can figure it out please tell me. "i dont want to share mii friendsz,there like ma identity, and i want to keep ma identity covered." and she said that because i knew 3 of her friends that was her elementary school friendsz that i wanna get to noe or are already really good friendsz with and shes saying that i noe too many of her friendsz. i think thats kinda wrong. do any of you know what shes saying, you noe why she dont want me to know "too many of her friends" which by the way is only about 3. i would really greatly appreciate any advice.

Hello,

Being hurt and confused is natural when your very best friend has other friends that you don't know. It means she is moving away from the friendship that you have with her.

This is not a bad thing. Do you eat the same foods every day? It is the same thing with friends, variety is good for you to have. You need to find friends that she doesn't know, to hang out with when she is not around.

The best thing you can do is be honest and tell her that you are feeling hurt and neglected by her actions. Honestly, if she is keeping them from you on purpose then she looks as though she is being dishonest in some way. You know, 'something to hide'. Maybe she is doing drugs?

Communication is the best thing next to honesty.

We all, you, your friend, her friends and their friend's friends move in and out of people's lives. Some of them may not be in hers in a year or so. Who knows, you may end up not speaking for 20 years and become even closer friends later in life.

The point is - that's the way life goes. Change is constant. Change is unknown and scary to most of us. You would not be human if you didn't want to keep the comfort zone you have. When you do not step outside that comfort zone, though, you miss out on a lot of valuable lessons.

There is one here. Keep your eyes open and you will learn something. Above all, be kind, loyal and honest. That is what a good friend does.

Good luck!

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(Rating: 4) thanksz this was really gudd advice.
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