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Q: Hey, I read your answer to this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=538067

and the way you've worded it, it seems like you're saying that ALL guys are bad and must be avoided. I'm wondering why you said that (if that IS in fact what you meant). It's unfortunate that your daughters got involved with bad guys, but they could have just as easily been involved with a really nice one too!

I'm sixteen and have a seventeen-year-old boyfriend, and he's one of the most amazing guys I've ever met. He respects women- I can tell because he has a good relationship with his mom and older sister, and doesn't ever force me to do anything. He doesn't hang with the "wrong" crowd and has really good friends, drives responsibly, etc. All-around he's a good person and my parents LOVE him.

But going with your answer to the above-linked question, I shouldn't be with him just because I'm sixteen and he's male, right?

I'm not trying to insult or offend you in any way, I'm just curious as to your opinion on this. :]

OK let me try. I got from her question that she was upset that her parents were being over protective. Because her parents know how many, "not all" boys are they want to make sure she isn't being careless. Young girls are easily influenced which is why older men prey on them. They can be tricked easier. As for the " I'm female, he's male part" if you will spend some time studying your friends and how many relationships they go through in a years time I THINK you would agree that it may be better to stay away from guys until you can determine their intentions. I would bet a large amount of money your boyfriend is a rare find. Tell me if I'm wrong. Now if there aren't many guys like him then somehow my advice would be right for the majority. Friendships are important, not relationships. Many of the guys my girls were friends with pretended to be one thing while really their intentions were less than honorable. They even fooled me. But my advice to them that for the biggest part boys were trouble just didn't get through. I'm not trying to be right, just warning her that her parents are really looking out for her best interests. She is just having a hard time understanding them.