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I'm Allie :)

I love lacrosse, field hockey, running, talking, boys, summer, and Boston.

I'm very forward. If you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question.

I'll do my best. =P

advice

How do you know when someone doesn't want to talk to you? How can you tell that someone wants to say something but they don't because they're scared of what you might say or think. How can you help someone to just let go?

Well, generally if someone doesn't want to talk to you, they'll act distant and kind of rude. They might end the conversation abruptly, or appear to be bored. If you get the feeling from someone that they're only talking to you to be polite, then they don't really want to talk to you.

It's hard to tell when someone wants to say something but they don't because they're scared. Mostly, you can't tell. The person might call your name and say nevermind, and generally that means that they wanted to say something but didn't. It's better to just say what you feel rather than feeling like you lost the opportunity to do so.

The last question, however, is the toughest. Most people hate letting go of people; it's not a natural instinct. You can't "just let go", instead, it's a slow, painful process. Explain to the person that eventually, they will feel better, and that you will always be there to help them. Tell them that they aren't alone.

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