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well to start im 17/f and this is a problem with guys.

guy a: well to start i like someone and he likes me but the relationship isn't going anywhere. we barely talk and he's going through this depression which is hard to explain. i really like him for his personality though, when he's not depressed, but he's good looking too.

guy b: we dated on and off in middle school but nothing serious. (nothing is ever serious in middle school) he wasn't my first kiss so its not like we have that connection. i liked him over the summer again and was at his house a lot and i was about to tell him i did but then he told me he liked someone, so i never told him and got over him. now about 2 weeks ago i was at his house with a lot of people and at the end of the night everybody left and it was just me and him. we were wrestling and he ended up on top of me and he made some sexual joke and was pretending to make out with me or something. so then after that we were talking and i started to realize i liked him again. BUT once again him and this other girl like each other. she's clingy and he doesn't know if he wants to start a relationship with her.

i dont know what to do. i don't know who to focus on or who is worth liking. i've been single for so long (appx. 3years) and i absolutely hate it. its not that i feel i need a man to complete me, its just that being loved (by people other than friends and family) makes me so happy. just the thought of having a relationship where someone smiles every time they see you and give you a hug like theres no tomarrow and having someone to cuddle with you during romantic movies. i love it! help me please.

this has happened to me before and i couldn't decide either. so i chose to work on both of them. hang out with both of them, you can talk to both of them at the same time if you're texting or talking online. but if you really want to chose, i'd go with b. a seems to not know what he wants. and his depression could eventually affect you too.
hope i helped!

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