Hi, I'm 17 years old. I will be a TARHEEL come fall!
My goal on advicenators is to give advice based on what I really think, not what I think you'll like to hear. Everything that I say comes from personal experience.
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Gender: Female
Location: Florida
Age: 15
Member Since: August 2, 2006
Answers: 51
Last Update: June 29, 2009
Visitors: 3537
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Please don't answer this is you're going to be really mean and insensetive.
Lately I've felt so lonely, and I know I do not need a boy to make me happy, it just sucks because its my nature to want to love someone, and be loved back. All my friends seem to be in a relationship, and I know you dont need to be, especially in highschool since they normally dont last, but that still doesnt change how I feel about it.
How am I supposed to put myself out there?
I really dont have a lot of guy friends..
please help? (link)
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Hi, I know exactly what you mean. But the truth is, you really do need to put yourself out there.
Be smiley; be happy; let yourself be noticed (but don't be obnoxious!) However, don't act like you desperately want a boyfriend. Here's how your outlook should be: "Sure a boyfriend would be nice. But being single is pretty great too."
Think about it like that, even if you don't find it to be a true statement.
Never let go of your standards and go out with someone merely because he likes you and asks you out. It's good to be choosy in love. Also, never change yourself so someone will like you.
Take small steps. If you're in a group with a guy in a class, talk to him. Ask him about class, express a feeling you think he might share: "That test was so hard! I'm scared." Ask him for help even if you don't need it. That sort of thing.
And me, i don't have very many guy friends either. Just a few here and there. The key to making those friends, though, is talking to them.
And, if there's just a small, small feeling you have that someone you like, likes you back... they probably do! I have heard that many times and it might just be true. Take this, for instance.
There is this guy in my class, who I've only talked to maybe 10 times, ever, in the past year.
Well... I added him on myspace and he commented me, complimenting me on my choice of music-- he said one of my bands listed (of perhaps 15) is his favorite band. Of course, that doesn't seem like a big deal, but to me it was. I mean, a random post like that... who knows what it means?
So basically the point of that story is that you should get a myspace or facebook, if you don't already have one. Add some guys you like, and just comment them: "Hey! What's up?" Who knows what might happen from there?
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Rating: 5
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Thank you very much! I found your advice to be absolutely needed, and you hit it right on the spot! I appreciate you taking the time to answer it thoughtfully and everything!
:) Have a great day!
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