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There's this guy at my school...and we both know OF eachother but we've never directly spoken to eachother. I've had a crush on him for about a year...and then summer came and I went TWO MONTHS without seeing him, trying to get him out of my head! ...before, I was obsessed..like I would go out of my way to see him and I would stutter and do embaressing stuff; it was horrible. I would visit his facebook page (but not the full page, bc I wasn't his friend) every hour...I was OBSESSED. Over the summer, I didn't see him..and you would think that I would get over this stuff school girl crush..but it didn't! I thought about him EVERYDAY. Is that STRANGE that I'm thinking about a guy I barely know everyday and crushing on him intensely? What is wrong with me?! Now, school's started again, and I find myself DRAWN to him again...he's had NUMEROUS girlfriends and meanwhile, I've had none..Infact, I think he has one right now! We don't speak..but I think I like him for what he SEEMS to be..which is pretty darn hot. Can someone help me and tell me why my obsession won't DIE? Everytime I feel sad, I NEED to see him..he's like my drug..he makes me laugh without even knowing it. I'm insane, aren't I? (link)
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Ok, let me start off by saying you cant help who you are attracted to. You can try and suppress it all you want but it will just keep coming back up until you are truly over him.
I think you are first and foremost attracted to the way he looks, which is fine, but you also seem to like the way he is. There are two things you can do.
First, try start talking to him if you have any classes with him maybe start off by asking a work related question and then take it from there. Start talking to him and you never know where things can lead to. You just might end up being friends or more. And if you find that when you talk to him you don't actually like his personality well then it should be really is to forget about him.
Or you can simply tell yourself to stop what you are doing, stop yourself from going to his face book page, and start finding other stuff that makes you happy when you are sad. Go out with your friends. You'll find that slowly your life will be filled with other things to occupy your mind and he wont feature that often. It will take a bit of time to stop yourself being drawn to him but it can be stopped.
Oh and you are not insane! Far from it! I've been exactly where you are!And it does not matter that you haven't had any boy friends, when the time is right you will have one and you'll be surprised by just how easy (and nerve wrecking in a good way) it is to have a boyfriend.
Good luck!
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thanks. best answer! haha i can't help who i'm attracted to :(
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