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Q: okay so i'm gonna try to make this as short as possible, but i'm sorry if it gets long.

so basically, i was best friends with these two girls [let's call them sue and marge] since freshman year of high school. but during sophomore year, all this drama happened and we weren't friends anymore, but marge and sue remained best friends. i don't know what to do because i still care about them, but i know they've moved on and stuff. and i feel like such a loser coz i can't move on like they did. sometimes i think it's normal that i feel that way coz they're the ones that left me, and they have each other, so it makes sense that they can move on so quickly. and i don't understand why i still get jealous when i see them hanging out and stuff. i feel like i'm a weak person for being so attached to them.

sue actually started talking to me though, but i know it's not gonna be the same. me and marge spoke, but i feel like i never really got the closure from the whole situation because we never really talked about it since we fought. i want to stop having hope that we could be friends again though and i want to move on. i have other friends, but because of all the clicks we have in school, it's hard to find that tight group you want to be in. like i was in a "group" i guess but it was with sue, marge, and other people. so now it's awkward hanging out with them because theyre there too. so yeah.

i don't know if i should talk to marge or sue about the whole thing because i dont know if they want to bring back everything that happened in the past. but i feel like if we got things straightened out, it would help me move on easier instead of hanging on to them. so what should i do?

again, i'm sooo sorry it got long.

Ok i think there are two things you could do, actually three with the first one being forget about it, but thats obviously not what you want to do
so
one thing you could do is get them alone and tell them you want to talk about what happened and tell them you miss them and want to be friends again like you were
the second thing would be call them up and ask them to come over to hang out just the three of you act casual and just make it seem like old times.
if none of those work then seriously they arent worth your time, if they cant get over a fight that happened way back in the past. remember to keep telling them that you care about them and you love them etc.
hope rthat helped
-mari :D

Rating: 5

thanks a lot =) i'll try that

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