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My boyfriend of 3 months and i broke up a week ago today. I have had the worst week and the stupid thing is, its all over the reasoning as to why we broke up. You see, things had been weird with him the week leading up to the breakup and i asked him what was wrong and he told me the news... hes moving at the end of the year. ten hours away to be exact.

I messaged him telling him that I didnt want to wait around to have my heart broken at the end of the year and he agreed that it would be 'smart' of us to break it off sooner rather than later. He said letting me go was going to be hard but it was better this way.

The thing is... i know i love him. And that I really just want to be with him. We are still friends but have stopped the whole couples thing (no touching...no kissing etc) but everytime i see him i just want to fall back into his arms and be how we used to be.

He told me the only thing that would change would be that we wouldnt do couple things but we could still go over to each others houses and be good friends and that he would always love me.

I really dont know what i should do, do i gradually de-attach myself?

Is it wrong to feel like this, and should i try and mask my feelings of love from him?

Was it smart to break up now and save the heartbreak later? Should I tell him how i feel or would that just make him feel worse for moving when i know he doesnt want to?

Is it wrong to feel jealous when i see him talking and mucking around with other girls and is it wrong to still message him and talk to him at school AND have him over at my house like old times?

HELP!!!!

NO, your feelings are just fine, and they make sense. Look, dont take the safe way out, especially in love. The fact that he is moving is just reason to spend alot more time with him, and bond more. If you have to break up when he moves then fine. But for now, what you need to do is be completely honest with him. if he loves you back then he will understand and most likely will feel the same way. Get back with him, and Cherish the time you have with each other. Never minimize ure happiness, because of uncertainty and fear...work through it gurl. PLEASE. and no, i am kinda in the same situation, and talking to him the same amount of time, and having him over ure house, and keeping things the same except for the physical isnt wrong, it just is more reason to continue being with him. but i understand why you broke it off, because I probably would have done the same thing..But that is just fear, and when you have a good guy that you know should be with, and love, then gurl, by all means....GET URE MAN BACK!! I hope you end up with him, and that everything works out!

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(Rating: 5) omg thank you so much, your advice means a lot to me!!! after reading it i do want to cherish the time we have together and be with him!!! your right, i broke it off in fear, that was a good way to put it too. Thanks!!
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