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Q: ive liked this guy on and off for a while now. like umm 5 months? and he never liked me in all this time. hes my best friend so i just got over the fact that we cant be more. everyone thinks we are together though because we like hold hands and not to mention we're always together. even my english teacher asked him if we are dating! haha. the problem is that sometimes i feel like he wants to avoid me. maybe he just hates all the drama and is trying to aviod ppl annoying him about it. today he was just acting weird to me and then he was back to normal and then weird again. i dont understand it.
and worst of all he told our friends [that are guys] that hes a heartbreaker. then they asked if he was talking about breaking jennys heart and he said no. he said he broke my heart. and i was right there when he said it. and they laughed at me. then they asked if im jealous that he made out with his ex. wtf?!? i hate it. its hard enough trying to see him as just a friend but why is he doing this to me now? hes been such a good friend to me up until this. i dont know whats happened. then i was walking with him and one of the guys until he started saying that he sends girls "mixed messages". he didnt say my name but he was talking about me again right in front of me. the guy asked what he meant. then he put his arm around me and said "like this". in my head i said hell no! and i just said bye walked away without looking back. hes so stupid that he didnt even know what he had just done. and we talked online and he asked why i walked away. then i said "when i liked you you hurt me and you make it into a big joke. its like you dont even care" and he logged off a minute later and never responded. i know he doesnt mean to be cruel because he probably thinks that its not a big deal, but it is. what should i do about this because at this point i have no idea anymore.thank you.

It seems like he's leading you on and leaving you hanging, you know? It hurts to be felt that way, especially when you're sooo interested and he just leaves you there all alone the next day. And it's a sucky feeling :( If he were your TRUE friend, he's support you 100% and wouldn't act like that. If continues acting like that... I really don't think he's much of a friend. I think you could do SOOO MUCH BETTER! This guy obviously likes to brag, and hurts you right in front of his buddies and that isn't cool. So, you should REALLY try to talk to him and if that isn't getting through him ... you might as well just totally move on. Focus on other things, get new friends, a new crush maybe, and forget about this boy because he does, REALLY seem like a heart breaking. You don't want to get hurt. Find the right person! "You can never find the right person, unless you let go of the wrong person." :) That's a quote for you that I got off of a friend. So, I think you should confront him and if it doesn't work and continues to act this way, you should really just forget about him. I hope my advice helps!! You take care & have a fun summer! :) If you need any help with anything else, feel free to ask meeee.