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Q: hi coolwater
my name is shawna, and ive been going out with my boyfriend, for like, 2 months now. and i like him alot, but i found out some realy bad stuff about him from his best friend. and his best friend says that i should break up with him, but i dont know because i love me boyfriend soo much, and i want to find out what is really up. what should i do? should i just break up with him without asking questions, like his friend said, or should i just confront him? please help, i dont know what to do :( thanks
-ayellowbutterfly
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Dear ayellowbutterfly,
I can understand where you're at right now because I've been in your situation. It is SOOO hard to know that your boyfriend, the guy you've trusted for so long and loved for so long, is being trash talked or being talked about in a negative way. You must feel guilty and confused but my advice for you.. is to talk to your boyfriend. It will help you greatly. Not only does understanding communication help you and your boyfriend, it will totally clear some of the negative aspects against your boyfriend. BUT, if your boyfriend is the "bad" person, your bestfriend says he is; kick him to the curb because he isn't worth it, you know? But that's only if he isn't the faithful boyfriend you thought he was. Be sure of him. If you break up with him too quickly, you might regret it and being in denial and regret hurts like hell.
Advice:
1. Talk to your boyfriend and understand where he stands in this situation.
-Ask questions, and if ever, he says you're nagging, say it isn't nagging.. and that it's love and care. You do NOT want to feel left out and you do not want to feel stupid for what you say.
2. BE STRONG!! This is a tough position and know that a person really cares (haha, meee). Do NOT ever feel bad for yourself. Do the right thing and talk to your boyfriend.
3. Know the facts, because if you're stuck between fiction and truth--- it'll be total bullsh*t. You know?
4. Follow your heart. You just have to, to know where your place is. if he isn't worth it, dump him. If he is, he deserves all your love :)
I hope I helped!! You take care!
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thank you coolwater, the advice you gave me is going to work, i feel it. i love you, you are such a good advice...giving...person, hahahaha. you said that you went through this before, how did it work out for you? well, again, thanks, and maybe ill come back sometime for more help. cya :)
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