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Although this is long, I dont know where to turn and would appreciate any responses. Thanks.

Hi everyone. I'm 13/f and my best friend is 14/m.

Well, he moved here last year and his old school was kind of bad, but we clicked right away, I helped him fit in, so to speak (even though I'm not the most popular), and now he's the most popular guy in our school, by most people's "standards."

I didn't think he'd done anything bad at his old school, and I still don't.

But, as I've been becoming "closer" to him I've been finding out things like, he seems to have a girlfriend just to "do things" (not bad, that I know of - just like kissing) with her. When I first found out he kissed his girlfriend I cried- I know it sounds pathetic, but he seems to go out with girls who have NO redeeming qualities, and now he's going out with a "sl**" (I hate to say that, but most people think so.)

But she's not the worst. One other girl in our school is really bad, does drugs (well, it's a rumor) and is the sl***iest. She's probably done really bad things with guys.

Well, I feel horrible about this - and I'm still guilty - but, I found out someone's email password from my grade, and happened to see an email that said "____(the girl) got down on her knees for ______ (my bff), just like i did with _____ (some other kid) and started sucking away. But no one's mad at her and they're mad at me."

I bawled for a half-hour, because I couldn't believe that he would do this with someone/let her do it! I just still can't believe it, and I don't know if it was someone else but it is a pretty uncommon name (my bff's) - and I can't ask/tell anyone, because then theyll ask how I knew and I can't tell them I was on someone else's email! (I feel horrible - never again.)

My best friend seemed so nice when I met him. He seemed like such a good boy, he does well in school and has an amazing family but I don't think they know he's like this! I didn't even know! although it's becoming more apparent recently.

I just don't know where to turn. I can't believe he would do that. It's so shallow and DISGUSTING for an 8th grader! (I know lots of people do now - but I really thought he was waaaaay above that. that's gross, and he doesn't even hang out with her.)

I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. I can't even look at him anymore. I don't want to even associate with him! But he's still my best friend, so I can't just leave him like that - esp. when I don't know details.

I just can't believe it. I'm in such a state of shock. You might not know how I feel, but thanks for any advice you give.

I'm really grateful because I don't know who else to ask about this - thank you sooo much for your responses.



-Disappointed

wow,
he is such a jerk.
maybe it might be after he got in the
" in crowd " that usually happens, he
may not really be doing it because most
guys just act tough and stuff, and rumors
75% of the time are def. not true so cool
down and dont stress out, i think you
should just try and talk to him about how
you think he changed alot & if he was really
your bff he would listen to you =]
take care & chin up.
♥kay

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(Rating: 5) Wow! Thanks so much for answering - your response cheered me up the most. I'm glad you helped - thanks again.
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