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For the past few days I've been having these dreams of this classmate of mine and after three days I start having these feelings for him.My heart dos'ent stop beating and it hurts my chest.Then I realize I might have feelings for him,but I'm scared to death.He do'sent have girlfriend or anything but I'm just scared to know that I might like him but he may not like me.I mean, he do'sent even know me that well and I do'nt know him that well.All we Know is just each others names.I'm really scared of this feeling.
i notice 2 things. your feelings of fear and your fear of the actual outcome.....
lets start with your feelings.... "i'm really scared of this feeling". i understand it can be the crappiest thing on earth wen you don't know what someone else thinks of you when you think the world of them. after all we are afraid of what we do not know. but in the same respect what you don't know can't kill you .... its very normal though to be confused. especially that you sound like a smart rational person... (your sub-conscience connecting to you through dreams and all means you listen to your head more than you heart oftentimes) ..... but sometimes you need to let your gut and emotions tell you what you want... once you face those it wont be as scary.... you'll face it and then use your mind to rationalize.... rejection is a difficult thing to deal with but whats the worst of it...
this brings me to the next point... the guy... its soooo hard to acknowledge your feeling towards someone you barely know let alone to actually tell them... so what i would suggest is that you get to know him a little better.. try to spend more time with him and hang out without being too obvious. just get to know him as a friend.
once you've established that tell him. (it won't be easier... i give you that.... but at least you get to release a huge huge huge burden off your chest) after all it's 50 50 chance he may try to give it a chance in th end and he may not. try noticing his signs (if he's interested) once you get to know him.....
i did that recently and the guy i told was so fine with it even though it wasnt mutual. lol ok this may sound mean but now i have another guy i am madly in love with and who loves me back... only to find that the guy i confessed to harbors new feelings for me... his loss i gave him a chance and i'm happy i told him coz i dnt regret now what cud have been. i can garentee you this though, once i told him i felt like the happiest person on earth it hurt a bit and i was so nervous but he was sweet enough to ignore it and take me out with friends to ease up the tension.... not to bad rite? so go for it!
(Rating: 4) Thank you.I'm glad someone answerd my question.And your right maybe I do need to listen to my heart than my head./\_/\