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Q: hello everyone. well i'm pretty much wondering what to do to be pretty? i know this is a stupid question, but how do i FEEL pretty when i'm truly not at all. i have no self confidence and my self esteem is extremly low. it's been since i can remember. i pick out everything on my body and critize it. people tell me to shut up, and tell me i'm pretty but i just feel like they're just trying to be nice. i don't know how to take a compliment, and i just don't feel like i do anything right. i don't know it's just getting terrible. i feel like i'm 1000 pounds, and discusting.

-if anyone has any help, that'd be amazing.
thanks in advance.
Hey there! Do yourself a favor and get checked out by your doctor.

If you fit these symptoms, you may have a mental disorder called body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). It is a mental disorder that involves a disturbed body image. It is generally diagnosed in those who are extremely critical of their physique or self image, despite the fact there may be no noticeable disfigurement or defect.

-Compulsive mirror checking, glancing in reflective doors, windows and other reflective surfaces.
-Alternatively, an inability to look at ones own reflection or photographs of oneself; often the removal of mirrors from the home.
-Compulsive skin-touching, especially to measure or feel the perceived defect.
-Reassurance seeking from loved ones.
-Social withdrawal and co-morbid depression.
-Obsessive viewing of favorite celebrities or models the person suffering from BDD may wish to resemble.
-Excessive grooming behaviors: combing hair, plucking eyebrows, shaving, etc.
-Obsession with plastic surgery or multiple plastic surgeries with little satisfactory results for the patient.
-In obscure cases patients have performed plastic surgery on themselves, including liposuction and various implants with disastrous results.

Keep in mind that I am NOT suggesting that you have a mental disorder. I AM suggesting that you should at least rule out the possibility.

If you are sick and have been in the hospital, then you may have anorexia. Please get yourself the help you need- before it is too late.

thanks.

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