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i'm megan. i like to be different. my name, ibettershakethis, comes from high school musical ;]

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Okay, well I have a boyfriend who i've been with for over 9 months.. and i love him with everything that i have. he doesn't have the best life, and he's such a happy goofy kid. i love him mentality because he's always so carefree, even though alot of things in his life suck. for example- no father, very sick [in the hospital for years] mother, loser brother, and lives with his uncle. yet he's such a cheerful and funny kid. but, i tend to get annoyed very easily, and whenever he does something dumb, i make him feel stupid about it by saying something mean or sarcastic. and i've finally recognized that i do it, i just don't know how to control it. there have been several occassions that he almost broke up with me because i treat him so crappily. and i can't stand it. but he loves me so much, so he can never bring himself to officially leave me. and i love him too. he's the sweetest boy in the world, and my first everthing [i'm still a virgin though] and i really am the luckiest girl in the whole entire universe to have him.. but i just wish i could be nicer to him! now, i too have an advice column.. and if someone asked me this question, i'd just say- 'well if you want to be nicer, just simply be nicer' but it's really not that easy. i try so hard but i'm just a spoiled bitch. and i dont get it because i do realize what i have- the most amazing boy anyone could ever have, but i just don't act like it. and i don't want to lose him because of my attitude.. can someone please help me??? =( ♥

i think you should talk to him about your sarcasm. ask him really if it bothers him and tell him that you're only joking. maybe before you say anything sarcastic when he does something dumb, think about what YOU would want to hear if you were in his situation.
if its something small like tripping(not in a public place), its perfectly appropriate to say something like "have a nice trip? see you next fall!" (okay that was really cheezy but you get where im going with this). i mean he knows that you're joking about that and its just playful fun.
but if its something bigger like if he spills something on himself and you say "good job, spaz" you probably would not want to hear that. maybe something encouraging next time.

basically, just watch what you say and don't forget to see things from his perspective.

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(Rating: 4) okay wellll i've talked to him about it and like i said, he almost broke up with me over it.. and i'ts not like he trips and i crack jokes at him, it's like he'll talk in a funny voice and i'll tell him he sounds gay.. and i know what's appropriate and what's not, and my snobbiness isn't at all.. thanks though =]
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