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My wife and I decided when we got married that we wanted to have a child. I'm having second thoughts, though, because of my parents. They got divorced when I was 2 years old and my father could only see me 4 times a year, for about a week long each season and 5 weeks in the summer.
I'm afraid of having a child because I'm afraid that if I get divorced, I won't get custody. My wife and I are very much in love, but so were my parents before they ended their marriage. I know that once I am a father, I'll love my kid more than anything, and the thought of possibly not being able to see him/her very often worries me.
Has anyone felt the way I do, or have anything to suggest? Thank you. (link)
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The fact that you are so worried about this makes me think you will be a great dad! You know you will love your child and make it work even if something happens between you and your wife. You may have to move or rearrange your life a little but you'll be a constant in your child's life. Besides, don't compare yourself and your relationship to your parents because it is totally different. Maybe you should talk to your wife about this. She may have some of the same fears and together you can work through this.
Good Luck!
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