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Q: Ok so my friends do these things they call bashings. It's where we sit in a circle and tell esch other what we don't like each other. I hate it i think it's ridiculous casue i feel like their trying to stream line me so i'm some form of perfect friend robot.
They say it's so we don't talk behind each others back. Whenever i say i think it's stupid and it hurts me they just say i'm so sensitive and can't handle critism.
What do you think is it a good idea or stupid?
What should i do?
I have to agree with you on this one. I think that is extremely stupid. Who are they kidding? If you can tell someone what you don't like about them to their face then you can definately do it behind their back. The thing that I have to question though is if they are all really friends because I could never tell someone what I hated about them to their face and in front of a ton of people. Sure, I could pull them aside and tell them to stop something if I didn't like it, but never in a group. I dont know maybe I just have good friends, but in a friendship you shouldn't be tempted to talk about your friends behind their backs. It's called being a friend and I knwo I couldnt sit there and listen to my friends insult me to my face because once they insult you how could you go to them and complain about someone else insulting you? My Advice to you is to just not attend these bashings and if they say that if you dont then they wont be yoru friend then you need to find new friends because this to me doesnt seem like they are really each others friends. Expand your horizons and maybe find another group who doesnt feel the need to do this to hang out with. It wont be easy, but if you really try you can definately make new friends.

Hope I helped and sorry its so long. I just had a lot to say on this subject.


wow thanks i love that you really got into this haha. I think your right i'm in grade 9 right now and i think i'll be able to find new friends in high school because i'm going to a completely different one than them thanks a bunch !

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