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I'm a 14/f and I dont have a best friend. I mean I have friends.... but they're not that close. Like a lot of people I know, are going to the mall with their best friends, and since i dont have a best friend, i'd only have a chance to go to the mall with my mom... ughh and I soo totally dont want to do that.
Well, my point is that in school, we have about 20 minutes before school to do anything we want. And well I am hanging out with my "friends" and they don't really include me... so if they're having a conversation, and I ask a question, they wont answer me and just ignore me. I always feel so alone. I know you might say "just have you're family be your best friends" but I REALLY dont want to have my family be my best friends. I want someone that's my age, and who I can have sleepovers with, and go to the mall with, and just hang out with... but none of my friends don't like me that much. It's like this world doesn't even know I exist.
So my question is How can I stand out to people and try to make friends? Is there any tricks to making a best friend? What should I do about these so called "friends"? Keep talking to them? Ignore them?
I mean, if I start talking to them, they'll just change their mood into like an annoying mood. Suuuure they'll talk to me, but its about something really stupid like "what was the homework assignment for monday?"
Sometimes, if one of my friends, doesn't have anyone to talk to at the time, they'll come to me and start talking to me, but it's not the talking you think it is... its probably more like bragging. Like one of them likes to dance, and if she doesn't have anybody to talk to, she'll come up to me and say "oh my gosh, I can't remember my tap dance sequence... Oh yeah it goes ____" and then she'll like dance infront of me, and like show off.
I don't know what's wrong with me, it's like i'm a back-up friend to everybody... I feel so alone and my subject said "what happens to a lonely person in life?" well... what happens? Will I turn out to be some person who doesn't have a purpose in life?
How can I fix this? I'm SOOOO CONFUSED!!!!!!!!
HELP ME! (link)
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You should leave those friends behind. I used to be exactly like you and it wasn't very fun. =(
There are some things you need to remember. First of all, I'm guessing that there are maybe 5,000 kids in your school or less. Worldwide, there are 6 billion, so if I'm calculating this correctly, there are over 5 billion people you don't know yet. You need to keep in mind that high school is NOT everything and there are other people outside of your school. In four years, no one will keep in touch except the true friends, which are few.
Secondly, join clubs and try to get to know foreign exchange students or new students. That way you both will be lonely and will rely on eachother.
Thirdly, don't forget that the number of friends doesn't matter. It's how close you are with your friends. Don't feel discouraged if you only have a few friends. Most people have tons of fake friends. But they mean absolutely nothing. The person below me explained it well. =]
Think outside of your school. Do you go to church or any religious place? Meet people there. What about in your neighborhood? Are there any community activities going on, like a food drive?
People at school aren't your only opportunity.
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