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Alright. (I'm 21) So I live 1400 miles away from my boyfriend. We'll call him C. How I met him is a little complicated: my ex boyfriends cousin- his [ex]fiance is my boyfriends best friend. (still got it? haha) Anyways, I've been with him for a few months now and I haven't been by him yet. Now, there's this girl that really likes him (we'll call her B) and is trying anything and Everything in her power to get with him. He wants NOTHING to do with B. So the past few months I've received some nasty threatening emails from B. B recently hacked into C's account and wrote me a message. And C wrote me saying that it wasnt him and whatnot, which is true because B changed his password to something that can be traced back to her... I have my connections on how I know that. Now it wasnt just me that received a message through his account from B. My best friend is coming with me to go by him and she received one from B as well. Now, my father recently saw these messages and told me to print them out and maybe put an inquiry in to police because it's over state lines (federal). He knows my friend and I are taking a trip by C, so of course he's worried. So I guess what I want to know is, should I put something in about this? I mean, I'm a couple years older than B. And I'm not threatened by her At All. And I'm not the one to do something like this. But my father says its for protection, blah blah. So should I do this? She's friends with some of C's friends. So I don't want to start anything. That's the last thing I want to do. Should I talk to him about what my father told me to do?
I'm at a loss here.
Please help!
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Just the thoughts that hit me:
1. Thats a lot of drama for a relationship thats spans 1400 miles. Is it worth it?
2. This guy could be feeding you a line of BS about 'not liking' this other girl. No matter what, he is going to tell you he "wants NOTHING to do with B". If he truly doesnt like her, he'll tell you this. If he DOES like her, he'll lie and tell you this. Rarely is someone going to tell a GF/BF "Oh, yeah, I kinda like this other person". Hopefully this guy is trustworthy.
3. She 'Hacked' into his e-mail? I doubt that she hacked in the traditional sense, thats fairly unlikely. More likely possibilities is that he either gave her the PW, or she found out some other way. He sounds like he is making it out like he is having nothing to do with her at all, but my gut feeling is that isn't 100% true, or she wouldn't have gained his PW so easily. Unless she is some teenage hacker-prodigy (hahaha) or she had one of the programs to record his keystrokes installed on the computer he used, hacking is pretty much a long-shot. More likely than the hacking is that he was playing house with her, she got ahold of the PW, and now that she sees you as a threat, out comes the e-mails. Cynical, maybe, but I would advise you not to be naive in this. :( Feel free to disagree with me on this point, rate me bad I dont care lol. I'd rather point this out for you to consider even if you disagree, than not mention it and run the risk that this was exactly what you needed to hear and I didn't say it.
4. Your father is right, copy this stuff down, if for no other reason than to have proof in case the odd, unforeseable event happens. Always take the extra step to cover your own arse. That kind of e-mail is ammunition for you if anything were to ever go further, especially in a legal sense.
5. Personally I'd take a long, hard look at whether or not you really want to continue this relationship. Even if you do think the relationship is worth it, you don't deserve this other woman screwing with you - I wouldn't care who is friends with who, thats sketchy behaviour. I'd feel free to cause a scene, you havent done anything wrong.
6. Talking to the police doesn't mean you would be pressing charges, so don't worry. I would go to them and ask for their take/position on it at the very least. That way you know exactly where you stand, and if she does something else, then you are prepared.
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Rating: 5
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I wouldn't rate any of your advice bad whatsoever. You put a lot of stuff in perspective for me. Thanks for all your advice!!
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