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This is a very long story so I will shorten it as much as possible.
I had a 'best' friend for a long time but she was VERY co-dependent. She was also not a very good friend to me. Always expected me to be there for her but was never there for me, tried to steal my boyfriend, flirted outrageously with him right in front of me, was horrible to my sister and so on. The final straw was when she did something WAY out of line earlier this year (details of which I won't go into) and I told her I wanted nothing more to do with her.
That was in March and, horrible though this may sound, although I missed having a friend I haven't missed her as a person at all. Now, she's e-mailed me saying she wants to be friends again and wants me to e-mail back. I can't just not reply but I don't want to open the lines of communication up because I really don't want to ever see or hear from her again. That being said, she was kind of suicidal for a time and I just don't know what to do.
So please, any suggestions on how to respond firmly but without saying I want to be friends would be appreciated. I know it probably sounds like I'm being a bitch but believe me, there are good reasons.
No offense or anything but she sounds to me like she wasnt really much of a good friend to begin with. I suggest you to reply back to her email and in the most nicest possible way say I cant be friends with you again, because of all the horrible things you have done to me over the years. You have not treaed me with the respect a friend desearves. I wish it could be different bu it cant. That way your technacially not opening up means of communication but your simply telling her how you feel and by telling her in a nice way this she will know she has hurt you and most likely leave you alone. Hope I helped!!
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That's a brilliant idea. No, she wasn't a good friend to me and I'm well shot of her. I really appreciate your advice. Thanks.
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