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okay, well its not likea medical problem or anything its just that well, i havent had a boyfriend for a LONG time.. its been about 1 year and a couple months.. thats a LONG time.. and i mean ive talked to guys and ive hooked up with them but i dk i think that there might be like a physical issue or something might be wrong with the way i act.. i mean i have lots of guy friends so i dont think its my personality.. i thin its more of the physical .. i dont think its my face because i have a pretty cute face but i think its because i weigh a little more than most girls, i wouldnt call myself huge but im up there im about 135 lbs.. but i dk can you just tell me what to do.. i think that guys would be able to help me more with my problem.. i need to know how guys really look for girls.. ((personality or looks)) PLEASE HELP (link)
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If you've hooked up, then I wouldn't think there is anything too 'wrong' with you, appearance-wise, or those guys wouldn't have even gone that far. A lot of guys avoid relationships like the plague though, you might just have met a lot of guys that just wanted to hook up, and nothing more. It might be that there wasn't anything in common in order for a relationship to seem desireable, or maybe they were just looking to hook up /shrug.
Honestly I look for both looks, and personality. Looks are somewhat important, I'd wouldn't be honest if I said they weren't. Looks arent everything though; as long as a woman is attractive in some way, shape, or form, its all good. Personality though I give less lee-way on; if your an idiot, stuck-up, immature or bitchy then there is no way anything is going to happen. I'd much rather date someone who is really cool and only somewhat attractive, than date someone who is extremely beautiful but is less than a decent person. On a scale of 1-10, I'll deal with 5-10 on looks some of the time (I'm quirky though, some women I think are hot my friends think are fugly). Personality though, needs to be at least a 7 - its a waste of everyones time to try to date someone I couldn't commit to being with, long-term.
I'm not opposed to hooking up with someone who is hot, yet is dumb/bitchy/etc...in that case, its just about sex. I usually don't do one night stands though, due to the drama factor. If its someone I actually like, then I'll be less likely to jump into bed with her right off the bat, and more likely to start dating and creating a relationship before sex becomes an issue.
But anyways, guys notice women due to looks, more often than not. For some women, the problem is getting noticed and having guys think of you in 'that way'. Once they get noticed though, its smooth sailing if you have a great personality and they enjoy being with you (though you do need to be careful of being the "really cool female friend" that the guy doesnt want to date).
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