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kay so at school people call me a lez or bifor like no reason at all. (just so you know im not one) i like guys..and ONLY guys. its really pisses me off because they dont even know if i am or not and they just say it. i like a guy right now and they just say that im a lez or bi. its like ANYONE. even if i dont know them they do...i DO flirt with guys at times but still...people call me it. and its sooooo gay because girls in our school (not me) like grind with eachother, make out, "experiment" and all that stuff and THEY dont get called lezbos or anything. it really ticks me off and omg i HATE it. it might be that i never had a boyfriend before because im kinda picking and stuff (i have kissed guys before and dance/grinded with them tho)is there anyways i can stop from people calling me a lez/bi and why you think they say it?
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-p.s. dont say anything like ohhhh you should care what people think and stuff because if it were you, you would care.. (link)
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I know it's hard. I also know that it's different when you're in the actual situation. I can't say I've encountered this problem before, but I do know that a lot of the advice people say are pretty hard to do, even for them, if they were in the same situation.
Do you have a close friend whom you trust? You can ask him/her why others are calling you bi or lesbo.
If you can pull it off, you can also try to shrug it off in a joking manner, because if they think you're unaffected, they might stop.
There really is no black and white for this sitauation. There is no right or wrong and there are no fixed rules for an instant solution. It all depends on how you handle yourself. If people still treat you the same, despite the fact that they tease you, then there's really no harm, if they're just kidding.
Think about it: Do people who used to talk to you or are friends with you stop talking to you? Did they stop going near you?
Well, maybe someone spread a rumor about you, which is why they're teasing you right now. Maybe they're just bored and had nothing to do.
Also, if you can't think of a permanent solution right now, the best you can do is ignore them. In the meantime, you can think of what you want to do. If you want, you can contact me and we can brainstorm ideas.
Till then, I wish you well. :)
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