Website:
LaMasqueDuMinet the CheshireKatLocation:
Omaha, NEOccupation:
burlesquer-actor-model-musician-graphics editorAge:
24AIM:
LunarKitty137Yahoo:
LunarKitty137Member Since:
March 20, 2006Answers:
78Last Update:
July 30, 2012Visitors:
11233Main Categories:
Love Life
Nutrition
General Sex Questions
View All
about
===IN THE THIRD PERSON:===Meet Kathryn: burlesquer, model, actor, ukulele-er, fantastic cook, and font of wise words and amusing anecdotes. She loves to listen to you and, if she can, help you with your troubles, or, if she can't help, direct you to someone who can. And that's why you're here, no? ~grins~
Kathryn is a person of wide and varied experience. Her only routine is to try something new every day. She has met many people in her travels from many different backgrounds, countries, and expertises. "Knowledge junkie" is something Kat frequently calls herself.
===THINGS I FEEL QUALIFIED TO GIVE ADVICE ABOUT:===
***romantic relationships
***general and nutritional health (I disclaim: I am not a doctor, nor a certified nutritionist yet...I merely have read a lot, experienced a lot in my own life, have personally heard testimonials on a variety of health issues and healthy lifestyle practises, and am a yoga instructor and Ayurvedic health consultant)
***sexual health
***technology (computers specifically, but other techie things like me too ^_^)
***philosophy, theology, and psychology
***social issues
***crafty artsy thingies (excuse the technical jargon)
===POSSIBLE POLITICAL/IDEALOGICAL CONFLICTS WITH YOUR OWN VIEWS:===
*I was raised as a Catholic (the Roman kind), I went to Catholic parochial grade school, I attended a Catholic high school (a Sacred Heart school), and now I attend a Catholic Jesuit university. Although I don't call myself Catholic or Christian, I respect and acknowledge the good things I was raised with.
*I am not prejudiced against any ethnic, socioeconomic, or cultural background.
*I am not prejudiced against any religion or spiritual path, including a lack of one (atheism, don't-give-a-damn-ism).
*I am not prejudiced against any sexual orientation or gender identity. I myself am romantically and sexually queer, physically female, mentally gender-f***ed. If you ever want to talk about sexual orientation and/or gender identity, don't hesitate to contact me! I am working toward a sexology degree, and these things interest me immensely!
*I don't care for politics very much, but I respect the people who are wise with their words and respectful to others.
===SOME QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE FOR ME (BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY ASK YOUR QUESTION):===
"You're only 24! You don't know anything about the world. How could you possibly give me advice on anything?" Perhaps I am fairly young to be giving advice to people. But I do know this: everyone who has ever come to me looking for counsel has always told me, either during or right after our "sessions", that I am not overly critical, that I am honest and fair, that I am sensitive and understanding, that I am open-minded and tolerant, that they can count on me to give a good outside objective perspective, and (something I think is most important in being an advisor) that I am a good listener.
"What types of things do you give advice on?" Well, I can give you advice on almost anything, really. If I personal experience with what you're asking about, I'll patch it through. If I don't, I'll put in my two cents and let you know where you can get more firsthand knowledge.
"Why do you write sooooo muuuuuch?"
I'm a writer, I blabber sometimes, heh. I do take a lot of care in my writing though, I want to give you a well-thought-out answer. But the other reason I write so much is because I don't want to give you a one-sentence reply, unless it's to a very black-and0white question like "What time does 'House' air on Tuesday in Cincinnati?"
===IN CLOSING:===
You got questions? Lemme at 'em!
I wish you all lives filled with tasty food, goofball antics, and people you love to share them with you.
~*Kathryn*~
advice
i am really good friends with this family, theres 5 kids. four sister and im friends with all of them the oldest sister is in 10th grade then 2 twins who are in my grade and a younger one whos in 6th [im going into 8th]
im really good friends with all of them
anyways so lately the oldest one has told me that she wants to start smoking/pot and stuff
she asked if i would think of her any differently/etc i said no i wouldnt think of her different although i dont think smokings the best thing.
she just messaged me that her and this guy [who i also know, not really friends with or anything] are going to meet up next week and smoke. im not sure if its pot but it might be.
i wasn't exactly invited to go with them but like if i really wanted to, i could and it wouldnt be like a big thing.
but im not really sure what i wanna do because as i look at it i know a lot of people who smoke/drink and other stuff.
i kind of do want to see what its like but im an athlete and im afraid it would mess me up too much.
i really dont know what to think anymore.
sorry, kind of long.
13/F
ok, sorta had me confused there at first, but ah well, i got it sorted out in the end. ^_^
psh, not long at all dolly! just wait until you finish reading this. THEN you'll see what "long" is.
all right, so we'll call your 10th grade gal pal "avi" and her guy friend "benny". sorry, that's kind of what i always do to make things simpler me to write about and for you to read. ^_^
not a fun situation for you, my dear. not even really fun for avi and beeny either. i'm not gonna tell you that smoking cigarettes and smoking pot are "wrong" like in a moral sense, because that makes no sense to me. it is "wrong" in the sense that it's illegal. marijuana is illegal to have in one's possession AND it's illeagl to smoke it. it's illegal for anyone in the U.S. to smoke cigarettes, cigars, tobacco in a pipe, etc., until they are at least 18 years of age.
i can't say i've never smoked, because i'd be lying; however, i don't make a habit of it. i've smoked a puff or two and sometimes maybe half of a cigarette no more than 7 or 8 times in my entire life. i've never even smoked a whole cigarette. i once smoked part of a small cigar, too. never smoked pot, though i have been around people who have and have been in rooms where people have been smoking it. it kinda sucks. gives me a headache and stinks up my clothes.
chances are that avi has a reason she wants to go start smoking. even though i'm a bit surprised to hear it, i'm very glad to hear that she told you about it. however, you phrase it interestingly: "[she] has told me that she wants to start smoking/pot and stuff". so she hadn't really ever smoked before when she told you she wanted to start doing it? it makes me wonder about whether or not she's actually smoking at all. there's always the chance that she told you she wanted to smoke and asked you about what you'd think of her if she did, all because she wants you to see her as a cooler person. or maybe saying that she's going to smoke pot makes her feel better about herself. it's hard to say.
but of course, we must always think there might be a chance that she really is smoking. as an athlete, you know that things like that can screw up your weight, your metabolism, your muscles, your heart, etc., so i'm glad that you don't want to go do it. the bad thing is that in my research (yes, i've studied a plethora of things on drugs in my spare time ^_^ ), i've read a lot of studies that show that pot can act as a "stepping stone" to using other, more dangerous, drugs. so if she has started to smoke it, she very possibly might be going down a bad road. again, as i say in my profile, i've actually known and actually known/know people who did/do drugs; i know what can happen because of it.
while i press you to talk to avi about this and let her know that you don't think it's a very good idea, and while i don't want you to go start doing it, i can't stop either of you from doing it. both you and she have to make your own decisions. YOU have to decide that you're not going to do it. YOU have to decide that smoking of any kind is really not good for you body, and can have serious and sometimes permanent effects on your mind and on your emotional state.
if you find that this is a problem with her, keep gently reminding her that she could hurt herself, and that it's hurting you too. she's your friend; she most likely will listen to her. if it becomes too much of a problem and she won't listen to you, give her a few chances to quit it on her own, but then (i know it sucks...) you've got to go to an adult. a parent, a teacher, some adult you really know and trust. even an older girl that might know avi that might be able to knock some sense into her.
a few last thoughts... don't assume too much right away, make sure you have the facts before you do or say anything. be up front with avi about it, let her know you're a little worried and you just want to make sure she's ok. don't try and threaten her with "i'm gonna tell you/my mom if you don't stop" unless it gets to be really out of hand; it'll be harder to have her listen to you if she doesn't trust you or if she feels like you're trying to control her. tell her (especially if she pulls the "it's MY life, and i'll do what I want!" line) that even though it IS her life, and even though she has to make her own decisions, you don't want to see her hurt and you just want what's best for her.
feel free to email me directly. i would be more than happy to talk to you about it, and i'd especially love to hear feedback and updates on the situation. i love it when people tell me how things are going with them.
hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
(Rating: 5) thank you!