Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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for like all of elementry school and 7th grade i was basically the shy people-pleasing girl who no one really noticed unless i was thier passing grade. in 8th grade things really turned around and i still got striaght a's and got like 2 new bes friends and alot of other close friends. i think the only reason i could really talk then was because my best friend since 1st grade was with me and we can be wierd and loud together and i can feel sociol. now i'm like that with my 2 other best friends and kind of with a new close friend. well now i'm going to high school and it's a huge new school with a ton of new people i don'tknow and the ones i do who new me as that quiet girl and i don't want to be her agian becuase now im independent and loud and don't care what people think and i just think if too much new gets thrown at me ill close up agian how do i learn a new school and keep who i am...how do i make new friends,keep my old ones and not be peole pleasing? o and i how do i stop freaking out? (link)
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Hey...calm down...high school is pretty fun.
If you want to make new friends...try to do it on your own...don't have your friends there...because then you are forced to do the talking and not just nod when they speak and not make a real connection with any of the people you meet.
I feel being shy is a great disadvantage. Want to go to an ivy league school? Well, you are probably going to have to go on interviews...and if you can't seem interesting and are too shy with your interviewer...they may not want you to go to their college because they won't feel like you add anything in college. Just like if you want anything in life...you gotta go for it. But you can't get far, if your shyness continually holds you back. So you see, shyness is not only an impediment to you with making friends but in the greater scheme of things too. So remember this, many amazing things happen when you take chances, if you never take a chance...you'll never really live. Don't let anything hold you back.
I realize this may sound a little off track..but I think if you feel confident in yourself, you won't have room to be shy. So if you want to be a smart girl who is not predictably quiet...then don't let yourself be.
Life lesson: You can't please everyone...so don't waste your time trying to.
Good Luck and enjoy high school. It's fun! =]
Teacup
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