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I'm a single, Modern Orthodox, Jewish man.
I live in Ellington CT and I'm currently the Co-President of my synagogue, Congregation Knesseth Israel.
I work as a paramedic for the Ambulance Service of Manchester, a commercial ambulance service that does both emergencies and routine transports throughout the region.
In addition to my Paramedic License, I have a degree in Mechanical Engineering.
I enjoy Bicycling, Reading (Sci-Fi/Fantasy, Biographies, History), Blogging, Watching Movies on DVD (Yeah Netflix!), and meeting people.
I'm looking for that proverbial nice Jewish girl who isn't intimidated by someone who's observant. I want to settle down and raise a nice, observant family.
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My dad was in a bad car accident a few days ago and he's still in the hospital. The doctors say he's stable but he's in a...coma. Which I don't even understand because how can he be stable if he's in a coma?
Well I'm supposed to be moving out in like, 10 days because I'm starting college and I'm moving 4 hours away. The thing is though, I don't want to leave my mom and my sister if my dad isn't conscious by then. I don't know what to do because I'm so scared about my dad and I don't want to leave.
Classes don't start until the 30th but move in day is in 10 days. I don't have to move in by moving day but I know I have to be there by the first day of classes. I don't even know if I'm going to be able to pay attention during class knowing that my dad is in the hospital. I just don't know what to do, I'm so confused.
I'm so very sorry for this tragic situation that has befallen your family.
The other columnists have quite clearly covered how he can be stable yet still be in a coma, I won't repeat what they've said.
You should, as another columnist also advised, call the University and explain the situation and find out what all your options are. You can't make a good decision without knowing all the options.
You're likely right that you're going to have a hard time concentrating on classes while you're worried about your Father and your family.
But the question you should perhaps be asking yourself is, what would your *father* want you to do? Would he want you to put your education on hold so you can hold his hand?
With the wonders of modern technology, you're always only a phone call or a text message away from your loved ones. If there's any change in his condition, you can find out nearly immediately.
When I was in the middle of Paramedic school, my own father was hospitalized and actually very near death after two abdominal surgeries. It was very rough, and my school made some allowances for me, but I carried on because I knew my Dad would want me to. And besides, there wasn't much for me to do sitting by his bedside anyway.
So it comes down to knowing yourself and doing what is best for you and your family.
I trust you to make the decision that is right for you.
Best wishes for you and my prayers for your father's speedy recovery.
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I know he'd still want me to go to school, but it's hard. :( Thanks alot.
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