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Gender: Female
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Age: 18
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ok, well i have 2 brothers 1 of them is a twin with me and we share a room. The second one is always an asshole and never leaves me alone, my twin and I are about to lose our heads!!! We try letting him in are room and work things out but he is so anoying! we are all about the same age 13-14 the ass hole is 14 but we dont get along! You know how when you say that you hate your mom or dad or sibling, well i really hate my brother! Ive hated him my whole life! What can i do to resolve this issue? (link)
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First off, I really, really feel for you and totally relate to where you're coming from. I hated my brother and he filled me with such rage that I remember screaming, throwing stuff all over the place and trying to attack him (and this is completely out of character - I'm actually quite a calm person with a good temper)! However, most of the time I remember that his behaviour wasn't even bad enough to shout, scream, kick and throw things - it was really, REALLY annoying stuff that I had to just put up with because if I'd kicked my brother's face in for it my parents would actually have killed me.
This is the best advice I can give you - fight him with his own medicine. If he constantly acts like a child and does stuff deliberately to piss you off, you can really piss HIM off by suddenly turning into an adult, along with your twin, and either not responding or walking out. I know it sounds like the hardest thing in the world, and that often it doesnt even seem possible, but if you can ever do this, try it. Nothing will make him look stupider (especially as he's meant to be a year older than you).
Try spending quality time with your twin. If your brother sees you two having a laugh about something or making something together, I'm willing to bet that your brother will initially try to mess it up or annoy you both - when this happens, loudly suggest to your twin that you go out to the mall/out for a walk together. Don't get mad, don't respond to your brother, just walk right out and continue having a good time without him. Everyone wants to be liked (even your brother) so seeing his two siblings walk out and ignore him will hit him like a brick wall, and he might actually start thinking about trying to get on with you and your twin instead of being an asshole.
Here's the best bit. Even if you can't ever get on with your brother and he pisses you off for the next five years - at the end of them, you don't have to talk to him ever again. I know this sounds horrible, but the day my brother went to university was one of the happiest days of my life. I finally felt I was free and could do whatever the hell I wanted in my house without him ruining it. One day, either he or you will leave to go to college, get a job or whatever, and for as long as you want you can get on with your life without him spoiling it. Then, after a few years, he probably will have grown up and you might find you get on really well.
Good luck with this, I know it really sucks but there's light at the end of the tunnel! x
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that makes two of us! thank-you for taking so much time to help me! i will try everything!
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