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I'm a single, Modern Orthodox, Jewish man.
I live in Ellington CT and I'm currently the Co-President of my synagogue, Congregation Knesseth Israel.
I work as a paramedic for the Ambulance Service of Manchester, a commercial ambulance service that does both emergencies and routine transports throughout the region.
In addition to my Paramedic License, I have a degree in Mechanical Engineering.
I enjoy Bicycling, Reading (Sci-Fi/Fantasy, Biographies, History), Blogging, Watching Movies on DVD (Yeah Netflix!), and meeting people.
I'm looking for that proverbial nice Jewish girl who isn't intimidated by someone who's observant. I want to settle down and raise a nice, observant family.
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I invited a new friend and his daughter to attend the 5th birthday celebration of my daughter. This was in part because I was returning the favor, and in part because this new friend is someone I have found to be a great guy who I like hanging out with.
Unfortunately, I messed up the invitation, and told him to show up two hours late. I didn't realize what I'd done until the party had already started and it was too late for him to come. I called him and apologized profusely, and he said he understood. What I feel worst about is that I'm sure his daughter was very disappointed (we held the party at a popular kid's restaurant, and of course she missed out).
I would like to get my family together with his so that the kids can have some fun and I can apologize to his child in person. I called the next day and he said he would call back, but he never did.
Now I must leave town on business for a month. My wife doesn't want to arrange a get-together because she feels that the ball is in his court, as he failed to call back on the second day. I feel that it's really my fault, and that I need to fix it.
Should I call back when I return home? If you were my friend, would you accept my apology at that point, or assume I was making excuses so as not to get together? I feel a little miffed that my wife is not helping me out here; are my feelings justified? And finally, how should I make it up to his child? I feel she's the one who's really the injured party here.
Thanks in advance!
You're right, you did someone wrong (by accident) and you have the obligation to make it right now. Its not his responsibility to call you back- you need to continue to contact him to make it right for him and his daughter.
I really don't see why you should have to wait until you're back from your business trip to call your friend again. Call before you leave, call when you get to your destination, or even call from the airplane!
And there's no reason you can't set up an "un-birthday" party for your friend's daughter to make it up to her. This is the 21st century, you can make reservations half way around the world laying in your bed in your jockeys.
I'd suggest that you call your friend again ASAP and tell him that you're feeling really bad about disappointing his daughter and want to schedule a small party for when you get back from your trip. Find out when it's a good time for him, and set it up.
Best Wishes, and have a successful business trip!
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I appreciate your advice, and likely I will contact him while on the road to make plans. Thank you!
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