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Hey everyone.

I recently met a really great guy named Collin about a week ago. Ever since we met, we've hung out together 2 times. He seems amazing & we talk on the phone every night. Problem is he's 23 years old & I'm 16. I know, I know - big problem. It sucks. I never thought my parents would ever make such a big deal out of something, especially age - since they started dating when my dad was 21 & my mom was 16.

Everyone in my family thinks it's a HORRIBLE idea. They all tell me it makes them feel sick that he's even wanting to be around people my age. He's in college & he's an all-around great guy that just seems to be interested in me. We're great when we're together & we don't push things on each other. It's just like a relationship where we have mutual feelings.

I have no idea where to go from this point on. Both of my parents said they don't want me to see him anymore. [I never in a million years thought they would EVER tell me I couldn't see someone.] I know if I sit down & talk to them, and try and change their minds, they may. I just have no idea what to say.

My eldest sister, whose 29 years old is super close to my parents, so she's of course giving her opinions on the situation, and they're all bad, like "She shouldn't see him!" & "I don't want to meet him - he's not coming to my wedding!" & all of those negative things.

Please help.
Although I will want to hear all of the reasons why I shouldn't continue a relationship, please give me some ideas to where I could continue it. I don't think I could end it right now, it just seems way too much for me.

Thanks in advance.
First of all you shouldn't be going out with colin because he could be married, have a kid. You also should know that guys that age want sex and if your parents want to be mean and they know you've had sex they can get him for rape. You should find a man your own age, I know your trying to experience new things and all but would you really want to ruin your life and get pregnant. You can not support a baby now days with out a college degree. If you get pregnant he'll probably leave and you seem to young. You don't need a baby to support and work at Mc Donalds for $6.00 and hour. He just wants to tell all his friends he had sex with a younger girl just to be able to fit in with his friends. Know offense men don't like younger girls they like virgins to sleep with. Sorry to say your parents are doing the right thing. Be a teenage pregnant girl most likly you'll never go back to college.



Please think about what i said...

Thanks for answering my question.
& Thanks for randomly assuming that Collin is married, whenever I've been to his apartment & I talk to his friends, I'm pretty sure he isn't. & He DEFINITELY DOES NOT have a kid. And I won't be a pregnant teenage girl working at McDonalds for $5.15 an hour, not 6 an hour. Get it right.

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