'Sup everybody, I'm Blade. I'm 5'9"ish, i have brown,gold, green eyes, brown hair. Love playin sports,(there aren't many that i haven't played) any of them and every one out there. i play soccer, swimming, and martial arts. I live in California in the bay area. And most of all I love helping people, so if you have a problem or question on ANY subject then ask and ill be more than happy to answer and help you out, if i cant answer your question or help you i'll find you someone who will.
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say I like this guy, and I do, I think he likes me too. I mean, he sends all the right signals and we flirt a ton. But Im friends with his younger sister, his best friend hooked up with me awhile ago, and we are on the same swim team, so theres a few obstacles ffor you. I want to make some sort of move. I dont know what though. He gives me rides home and stuff and we also go out to eat after most practices. If anyone had any ideas...that'd be great. (link)
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this is a very common situation that comes up, but most people dont handle it the right way. the wrong way would be to go forward with your relationship with him until however far it goes and have your friend(his sister) find out after something happens. this generally leads to ample amounts of fighting and drama and can cost you your friendship and relationship with the guy.(this is generally how alot of people handle this. not too smart.)
The right thing to do would be to talk to your friend and let her know how you feel about her brother BEFORE you make a move on him. Also Id do a little snooping and check to see if he really DOES like you, because nothing could be more embarassing than voicing your feelings to him (verbally or physically) and having him react with "WOAH!! Your my sister's friend, and your like MY little sister!" or something along those lines... But anyways, definatley talk with your friend and clear the air with her, get her feelings on the whole thing and try and make things as civil as possible. try and keep a common ground that will alow you to keep the friendship with her and your relationship with her brother all on good terms and moving forward in the right direction. If she says "No, Im not comfortable with you dating my brother" then you HAVE to respect that and not move in on her brother. It may not be what you want to do but you will earn her trust and respect by doing so; which in any case is much more important. in the off chance she might get over being weirded out, she just might give you permission to date her brother BECAUSE you respected her wishes and she was able to trust you.
The main focus here is your friend. "Romance may come and go, but friendship is forever." Keep the relationship with your friend healthy and worry about her brother second. There are plenty of fish in the sea, passing up one guy wont kill you, especially at this age.
I hope it all works out for the best and your friend is comfortable, or is willing to cope with you being involved with her brother. Just remember your relationship with her is more important that your feelings for her brother.
-Blade-
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Stellar answer. Thank you soo so so so so much for paying so much attention to my question. Great answer.
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