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My best friend is so gorgeous she can get any guy she wants. But she always says how ugly she is. I can't help but get jelous. How can I stop from being jelous or at least hide it better? I'll rate.

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I know that this issue can be frustrating. Firstly, your friend may only be verbalizing about her looks only to get attention or maybe she is afraid that you are jealous. Either way, if you are feeding her compliments...please stop...you are only feeding an unhealthy cycle. Just change the topic and focus on something positive. Secondly, it may help to recognize the difference between Jealousy and Envy. Jealousy is when desire things that another person has...and create a negative thoughts and feelings for that person. Envy, is wanting what the other person has, but not necessarily having negative thoughts for that person because you want them to be happy too. If you find yourself being truly jealous of your friend, you really need to make the choice to change your negative thoughts about her...it is not healthy for your relationship. If you are good friends...your friendship is more important than looks and getting guys. If she is truly a friend for you, you should be happy that she has what she wants. If you're just envious...then maybe figure out what you like about her and the things you want to be more like and learn from her. Friends are meant to learn from each other. If you keep your attitude positive, it will show in your own personality. Nobody likes a jealous person...and guys can see it a mile away. You may even find that there are some things she is envious about with you. Allow your good qualities to shine...there is a guy out there that will appreciate your authenticity.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much!
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